, former NFLer and Lisa Wu-Hartwell's husband, is speaking out about all the drama going down on "The Real Housewives of Atlanta". He says he and Keith Sweat
--Lisa's ex and children's father--are not cool and the drama with Kim is real:
ESSENCE.COM: A real man puts his foot down for his woman! So even after all the drama that has gone down between Lisa and Kim, which the blogosphere believe is staged, you have no regrets?
HARTWELL: No, and it's not staged. Unfortunately, it's as real as it gets. It's not staged. I think it's crazy because a lot of things that they are saying are lies. Did Lisa make a phone call to Kim? Yes. Did she threaten her life? No. [The ladies] are taking it way too far but eventually the truth will come out because there are only so many lies that you can continue to tell other people [before] they start mistrusting you, and after a while you lie so much you begin to forget your own lies, which has been happening. In the end, you ruin yourself and your reputation. It's all catty. I know Lisa doesn't do drama either, but she got dragged into it because she's human and was offended.
ESSENCE.COM: So do you think your wife did the right thing by defending herself?
HARTWELL: I told her that I had to deal with this stuff all the time when I was playing ball, as far as all the negative comments. I told her to speak from the heart and give her rebuttal and leave it alone. If she didn't speak on it, people will assume that it's the truth if you remain silent. Lisa's response was never to bash but to set the record straight and say her peace. The more she keeps it going, she will give Kim what she wants and that's more attention. It's not worth it.
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