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The BOYCOTT Of Evelyn Lozada & The "Basketball Wives" Is ON!

Folks are absolutely fed up with the utter foolywangery that is VH1's "Basketball Wives."  It only took 4 seasons for that to happen.  Yet and still, a petition has popped up to boycott cast member Evelyn Lozada's new spinoff show....and Star Jones is gathering up support of powerful women to get the show and its often embarrassing antics stopped.

 

Deets inside...

Evelyn and her assistant Nia Crooks ganging up on co-star Jennifer Williams this season seems to have been the straw that broke the slaphappy camel's back.  Because folks are more up in arms than ever at the antics of the grown women on this show.  From jumping on tables just to get a lick in on another female to throwing glass in the face of another to may-jah curse-your-ass-out arguments, it's a lot going on "Basketball Wives" these days.

An excerpt from an online petition that is now circulating (check it out in full HERE) reads:

“Evelyn Lozada is a bully. The violence on ‘Basketball Wives’ is horrible and disgraceful.  This is not a hate petition against Eveyln Lozada. We simply will not support violence. It hurts to see violence amongst women on television for entertainment purposes. It is not OK for women to hit each other on TV.

Just about every altercation and argument on the show has involved Evelyn in some way, shape or form. From the yelling match on the season 4 premier against her former bestie, Jen, to the table climbing and hair pulling in the last couple of episodes, the woman has a problem for reals."

Ha!  The petition also asks viewers to call and write Viacom in order to stop the release of "Ev & Ocho," Evelyn's spinoff show with fiance Chad OchoCinco.

Meanwhile, former "The View" co-host Star Jones went on a twitter rant reading these chicks.  Which we assume would include her ex-hubby, Al Reynolds, who appeared on several episodes as the girls' bestie.  *eyebrow raised*

She popped off this week saying:

“It may be ‘comfortable’ to be quiet when women of color slap the crap out of each other & run across tables barefoot, but #ENOUGHisENOUGH."

“About to put together a group of sisters to finally ‘tell the truth’ about the image of women of color in the media.”

She continued:

"And the thought that the woman from #BBW who was smacked doesn't have the RIGHT to file assault charges is LUDICROUS! You NEVER give up your right not to have your ‘person’ intentionally assaulted unless you are participating in an agreed physical activity.

…little black girls deserve more than what we're giving! It sickens me @lov3lylina85 when young sis think that behavior is acceptable. U can't get a REAL JOB acting like an animal."

So...who's getting their virtual picket signs ready for the fight?  Any takers?

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I'm so glad that someone

I'm so glad that someone other than me has noticed the bad behavoir of both Tammi and Evelyn. They are bullies and needs to be stopped. Neither one of them represents the true essence of a black woman or any woman to be factual. They only prey on the weak because that's were they get their strenght. I'm so glad that Jen stood up for herself and did it in lady fashion sue not fight. Thanks Star Jones for bringing this to the fore front. Bulling is never ok and fighting is a no-no. Shaunie wants to know if people think she's ghetto? I say you can take the girl out the ghetto but the ghetto will still show up no matter where you live or how much you may have. Shaunie you are messy and you helped and support Tammi and Evelyn in their bulling and fighting by filling their heads with that the other girls are afraid of them. You should take the complete blame for all that has happen. Because you support their bad behavior. Your show should be cancelled and you and Evelyn and Tammi should never be able to work in tv again. Lets all take a stand and BOYCOTT!!!! BASKETTBALL GROUPPIES!!!
SHEILA E's picture

Shaunie is a punk. Control

Shaunie is a punk. Control the women who you hire or fire them. Tami and Evelyn sre both bullies and need to be terminated. Jen keep doing you and you have a right to sue anyone who puts there hands on you. Bring positive productive women on the show. Shaunie you are a successful business woman,show more your life and other positive things that the other ladies are involved in...Get rid of Ev and Tami
Angel's picture

Shaunie is a punk. Control

Shaunie is a punk. Control the women who you hire or fire them. Tami and Evelyn sre both bullies and need to be terminated. Jen keep doing you and you have a right to sue anyone who puts there hands on you. Bring positive productive women on the show. Shaunie you are a successful business woman,show more your life and other positive things that the other ladies are involved in...Get rid of Ev and Tami
Angel's picture

Shaunie is a punk. Control

Shaunie is a punk. Control the women who you hire or fire them. Tami and Evelyn sre both bullies and need to be terminated. Jen keep doing you and you have a right to sue anyone who puts there hands on you. Bring positive productive women on the show. Shaunie you are a successful business woman,show more your life and other positive things that the other ladies are involved in...Get rid of Ev and Tami
Angel's picture

Shaunie is a punk. Control

Shaunie is a punk. Control the women who you hire or fire them. Tami and Evelyn sre both bullies and need to be terminated. Jen keep doing you and you have a right to sue anyone who puts there hands on you. Bring positive productive women on the show. Shaunie you are a successful business woman,show more your life and other positive things that the other ladies are involved in...Get rid of Ev and Tami
Angel's picture

You know what?? I say it's

You know what?? I say it's time we gave OctoMom a break... She f'ed up but she has more than once humbled herself, admitted her wrongs, & actually is a pretty good mom. Nadja S... has consistently shown loving, nurturing, & nonviolent (& Lawd they try her! lol) mothering! We villified her & made sure to never let her get a TV show lest she feel rewarded for her 'choices' in life. But i have read that she is on welfare & her life is really a mess financially. You can tell the lady doesn't splurge on herself (i.e. eyebrows). Her kids are growing up so smart & sweet, & freekin' cute! I'd hate for someone who made a dumb mistake have her kids taken away from her/eachother because she can't support herself when we are REWARDING bitches for making pornos, create more drama. I owuld watch Octomom b/c she is really pretty articulate, (instead of some dumb ass celebs who don't know how to talk or have a comeback that they just flip tables, talk over people, or focus only on their beauty (T.G., N.L., & K.K.). I think she has proved herself to us enough that she is sorry. Can't we help her out now? Instead of these other idiots who do nothing for our country but embarrass & insult our intelligence. I would like to see how Nadja does now with her kids if given the resources that Kate + 8 was given. The Gosling kids benefited so much from that experience. Now that we know, Nadja hasn't gone crazy, & all the kids are still alive, lol j/p, in the worst of times; how will she do in picking herself up in better times?? It only seems fair? Your thoughts?
Anonymous's picture

**OKokok, edit** Just when

**OKokok, edit** Just when Octomom may have turned public opinion she goes & gets on the media radar for $500 haircut. But even then, I have to say I still feel sorry for her. Although my personal stance is "a good haircut alone can therapeutic! for a woman", it does wonders for self-esteem & by god how important that is when you are struggling. She is really struggling! But sadly, I do NOT think this haircut is to feel like a refreshed & pretty woman that hasn't completely given up or needs motivation to not despair, but rather a work expense. Yes, really. Think about it, she is broke & must earn money if she is to ever pay off her debts! (& No one WANTS to be indebted! I bet if she could pay that poor landlord in full, she would!). But she is reduced to selling herself. She's degraded to making porn (any Mother or child's nightmare) b/c it's not longer about her values or morals (wants) but what she needs to do. Ok, my point is, she has to look right for the job--she has to have all that appearance shit right in order to be taped for viewing & snickering pleasure. She's getting what she deserves right? For real people? How sad for these kids, that will eventually know the world considered(s) them a mistake &/or abomination, but they have to witness their own mother give up her dignity, humiliate & degrade herself for her 'mistake'. How sad...what does this make me think of..."Even bad men love their Mama". What's that from?? IDK, but FCUK evelyn & kris K, et al. They give birth to bullshit every day, but all they get are CHECKS & their kids get a few grand to appear at a club. WTF America?
Anonymous's picture

Evelyn tami shonnie n suzy

Evelyn tami shonnie n suzy all needs to get a real ass whoopin who in the hell do they think they are to bully on ppl like if i was on dat fukin show ill give all of them ghetto ass bitches ah piece of my mind kuz ion like shyt like that all punk ass bitches jen my fukin bitch but she needs to fight back kuz anit no bitch gonna.smack me.n ion do shyt hell naw check my background n wat i realized was ppl bully thise 1s they feel they kan best y hasnt tami n eve got into it or suzy n tami suzy eve tami shomnie shoonie n eve kum on bbw suck n it shouldnt be aired lil kids watch dat show also n ion promote violcence round my kids kant speak for.every1 but Jen do wat yuh gotta do
Jessica Purkett's picture

For this show to redeem

For this show to redeem itself, shaunie and Evilyn need to go....Suzy too. There is no redemtion for them. The other ladies can stay. Even Tami, who i believe we saw the worse of her personality. But i believe in a different environment she will be fine. The fuel and fire are Shaunie and Evilyn. All new heads need to come on, and let them be real basketball wives like Jackie "crazy" Chistie. And please include basketball in the show. When this first came out I really thought it was going to be a reality show along the lines of the BET football comedy series The Game. Shaunie has ruined something that could have been good and positive.
Painsme2seethis's picture

SIGN ME UP!!!!! The show is

SIGN ME UP!!!!! The show is so embarrassing.
Anonymous's picture

Sign Me Up..The Show Is

Sign Me Up..The Show Is Terrible...
Tania Samuel's picture

Just disgusted...You go

Just disgusted...You go Jenn...
Tania Samuel's picture

For What it's Worth: Psycho

For What it's Worth: Psycho or not psycho. Bully or not bully. Who's to say other than the obvious and that is these kinds of show which displays this kind of behavior from grown adult women, should not be aired. I'm speaking of 'reality' shows like Real Housewives, Basketball Wives, Mob Wives, Bad Girls, et al. Where hitting and cursing is the only way to solve issues. I also know that if I don't like it, I don't have to watch, but that's beside the point. To paint these shows as reality is to say and question what our society has become, especially as we view the behavior of women of color. The responsibility lies with the producers and those of us who do watch. I, for one, watched Basketball Wives in awe hoping that Shaunie or someone would intervene at some point. Unfortunately, she never did. I also know of the boycott and am in full support of it and hope it has an impact on putting shows like this off the air. The producers not withstanding, Shaunie, Evelyn and Tammi should be ashamed of themselves for allowing America (the world) to see what kind of shoddy behavior women of color can demonstrate. They stand as 3 of many becons that the world looks to and wonders if they should emulate. I say NO. They, these woman who slap, hit, curse, etc. do not represent the majority of women of color. They do not represent me or anyone I know. As a woman of color, I am embarassed and ashamed that this is the best television can do to showcase who and what we are. Wendy Williams, Starr Jones and Shari Shepard are correct in leading this charge to get programs like this off the air. There should not be a place for this kind of smut on tv for our girls to watch and think this behavior is ok. "See Mommie, they get away with it, why can't I?" Oh no. Shame on the producers and shame on Shaunie for allowing this kind of behavior to proliferate on her show. When good people do nothing, evil grows. She stood back and allowed these girls to attack and that's just plain WRONG! Regardless of what pyschological problems they may have, or what crimes they might commit. Criminals behind bars behave better.....but that's just my opinion.
Anonymous's picture

you said it best. I cannot

you said it best. I cannot understand, going out to eat and fighting. thats all they do. I originally thought the show would show real basketball wives, with their kids, doing there jobs and being with their husbands. Ever notice that there is not one husband on the show, besides Matt Barnes and Eric Williams. there have not been any... I could produce a show better than this. 1. you should be married to a basketball player to be on 2. if you come into any violent/physical contact with another cast member you should be kicked off. 3. the show should focus on the good postive things they are doing. Oh they arent doing anything positive so its...lets meet at the nearest restaurant every episode. Tammi is the biggest jerk. i wanted to put myself in Keishas shoes when Tammi was bullying her.... "Yes Tammi your a fool, but i dont have to tell you that, just watch your self on Tv, talking about everyone else but no one can say anything about you" That is what keisha should of said. I wouldnt have left the island either. i would of stayed and had fun and ignored her. Poor Girl. Tammi is the nastiest woman Ive ever heard yell at someone for nothing. I think i only watch so i can see what maxi dress Evelyn is gonna wear and then I go buy them...cause she is a gold digging jerk. "let chad do whatever he wants, so long as he is lacing you with the finer things. ... dumb dumb dumb !!!
Mrs Leaks's picture

How do I sign up for the

How do I sign up for the boycott? As I sat watching my DVR of Basketball Wives I felt nothing but outrage looking at one of the oldest of the casts members acting a complete fool, and that was said lightly. My suggestion to Tammi and Evelyn, but especially Tammi would be to go and see the movie "Bully" because that is Exactly what you are!!!!!! I am sure with the actions you have displayed in past episodes you could care less what people think of you since you "fight to feed your family," but how long do you think this can last and what if Keisha was your daughter or sister? I could write a novel on how disappointed I am to see white corporations getting rich making us look stupid but what difference would that make? I will just show them the best way I can and not what your show or any show like yours in the future.
Anonymous's picture

These women are horrible,plz

These women are horrible,plz cancel the show!I feel so bad for thier kids!grow up!
kathy's picture

I hope that they cancel this

I hope that they cancel this show. Grown ass women acting foolish. It is all scripted anyways and it just had to be black women that chose to act as they do on tv. Get the fuck out of here. I am glad that Jennifer filed a law suit. Keep your hands to yourself next time chick. If you have anger issues why would you do a reality show instead of working on your anger.
Anonymous's picture

Shaunie is a punk. Control

Shaunie is a punk. Control the women who you hire or fire them. Tami and Evelyn sre both bullies and need to be terminated. Jen keep doing you and you have a right to sue anyone who puts there hands on you. Bring positive productive women on the show. Shaunie you are a successful business woman,show more your life and other positive things that the other ladies are involved in...Get rid of Ev and Tami
Angel's picture

Tami is SO trashy, I can

Tami is SO trashy, I can hardly believe it. I would handle her abuse the same way Keisha is... Tami is just not used to a lady who wouldn't resort to violence just because they "were disrespected." Are you serious? That is what they prisoners on "Lock-Up" say... and I would also sue each and every one of them for putting their hands on me. Evelyn and Tami do not deserve the title of "ladies." I am embarrassed for them and their families. Grow up.
wtfprez's picture

Tammie need to know everyone

Tammie need to know everyone is not like her or wasn't raised like her. She talk shit to others about how she feel about the other woman. When someone speaks on her she goes to far with it. This is showing a grown woman bullies another woman for entertainment. What kind of shit is that! The wrong message that's for sure.
Karlyn's picture

Your right. but its not

Your right. but its not entertainment. its disgusting. I watched Tammi bully poor keisha with my man and he just looked at me and said. " Please dont ever let me see you act like that" ... and he never will
Mrs Leaks's picture

Tammie is a bully straight

Tammie is a bully straight up. Her doing Keisha the way she did was sickening to watch. We are trying to stop bullies in American with the younger generation and to see a a 40 year old lady bully another woman is just as bad. They do need to get rid of Tammi and Evelyn with the bully and the violence. I mean really where is your pride? You hotheads have kids or a kid. There behavior should not be excepted on national tv period.
Karlyn's picture

This is sad.... Shaunie is

This is sad.... Shaunie is obviously an advocate of grown up violence
Anonymous's picture

This is some childess

This is some childess bull-tammie is a psycho bitch' everyone is afraid of her. Shaunie is just as messed up because she allows this to go on. Evelyn is all f up. Trully they have sold their souls to the devil. I would think that women of the caliber would have more interesting things to do-what happen to charities for people less fortunate than them. I agree after watching Tammies crazy bullying schzoprenic ass tonight-( at 49 yrs old i am done). Sign me up for this to end
tiredofwatchingthismess's picture

I just can't watch fake,

I just can't watch fake, grown woman just act like "FOOLS!! I can't stomach to watch Elevlyn and Tammy, two dummies together! Its to see black woman act like lil girls! Y u think they took some of the women of HWNJ, because they didn't want us to white women act like that! So they kept this bullshit show on because this is what they think of "US"........dumb & dumber (Tammy/Evelyn
A.Renee' Keys's picture

And your even dumber ass

And your even dumber ass obviously just keep watching it! So who's STUPID?????
Anonymous's picture

I just can't watch fake,

I just can't watch fake, grown woman just act like "FOOLS!! I can't stomach to watch Elevlyn and Tammy, two dummies together! Its to see black woman act like lil girls! Y u think they took some of the women of HWNJ, because they didn't want us to white women act like that! So they kept this bullshit show on because this is what they think of "US"........dumb & dumber (Tammy/Evelyn
A.Renee' Keys's picture

I just can't watch fake,

I just can't watch fake, grown woman just act like "FOOLS!! I can't stomach to watch Elevlyn and Tammy, two dummies together! Its to see black woman act like lil girls! Y u think they took some of the women of HWNJ, because they didn't want us to white women act like that! So they kept this bullshit show on because this is what they think of "US"........dumb & dumber (Tammy/Evelyn
A.Renee' Keys's picture

I just can't watch fake,

I just can't watch fake, grown woman just act like "FOOLS!! I can't stomach to watch Elevlyn and Tammy, two dummies together! Its to see black woman act like lil girls! Y u think they took some of the women of HWNJ, because they didn't want us to white women act like that! So they kept this bullshit show on because this is what they think of "US"........dumb & dumber (Tammy/Evelyn
A.Renee' Keys's picture

Evelyn and Tammy are ghetto

Evelyn and Tammy are ghetto trash. I also signed the petition. I say get some real "basketball wives" (those who are presently married) and get rid of that trouble making, no longer married to a basketball star, standing in the background scared bitch ass Shaunie.
Anonymous's picture

Can somebody please tell me

Can somebody please tell me how to sign this petition...im so over this show
Anonymous's picture

Can somebody please tell me

Can somebody please tell me how to sign this petition...im so over this show
Anonymous's picture

If this is the way they

If this is the way they really act then Shame. These woman have ladies that look up to them and that THUG TAMMI AND EVE are a match made in hell for sure. This is not what I want to look at anymore. They are worse the HWOA
beeps's picture

Okay, I will admit I do watch

Okay, I will admit I do watch the show, but of course don't agree with grown women with children acting ignorant. But this is what gets me...all of a sudden Tami is buddy buddy with Eveyn who was not only with her exhubby,but said she wasn't even a factor. REALLY TAMMI??? The whole group including Shaunie who is just as messy as the others is scared of Tammi. Evelyn and Tammi pick on the weak ones in the group. Bullies! They all talk about each other. No one is loyal to anything or anyone but that check!!! Evelyn is scared Chad will be unfaithul which is why she's so insecure about him and what people say about her. Well, what goes around always comes around.
Tressyel's picture

No, SHAME on YOU for

No, SHAME on YOU for continuing to watch it!!!!
Anonymous's picture

This show provides how

This show provides how alcohol and bullying other women is right.One women, who thinks she's a goddess,who looks like an old burlap bag,bullies a friend.Then you have a mental disturb person who flips out after drinking alcohol(after hearing stuff from the snitch) goes ape shit wild on another woman.All bullyish happy when telling on what she's doing.She needs three psychologists and needs to go to AA meetings.I see why her children don't want her as manager,she'll drink it away.
Ban Basketball Bullies!!!'s picture

And you need a psychiatrist

And you need a psychiatrist and a meeting because y obviously get a high from watching this dumb shit!
Anonymous's picture

"you"

"you"
Anonymous's picture

Please dont give Evil and

Please dont give Evil and OCho a show. All of these shows are antics to belittle the Blk Woman while we Have Our Very First Lady.
Lisa's picture

I stopped watching BBW two

I stopped watching BBW two seasons ago and will not be watching Evelyn and Chad's wedding, that is if they have one. If you are really sick and tired of these hoodrats STOP WATCHING the shows. That's the fatest way to get them off of our screens. That goes for the Kardashians too.
Anonymous's picture

I think shaunie is a

I think shaunie is a low-bitch.she wants us (viewers) to think she is so innocent , but she instegates most of the stuff that goes on ,by talkiing about the other girls behind their backs .she is a snake and a two-faced bitch. And evelyn and tammi are two physco bitches.(their favorite name to call most of the other ladies). This show says a lot for these women. I can understand why they are without the best thing that ever happened to them-THE BASKETBALL HUSBANS. THESE men so much bettet off without these women. What do their kids think of these women? Im not finished with postings about these poor examlples for women and mothers. Show is a waste of air time. I dont watch it anymore. But i hope evelyn , tammi, and shaunie get their asses kicked bdecause that is what ALL BULLIES NEED.
Anonymous's picture

I think shaunie is a

I think shaunie is a low-bitch.she wants us (viewers) to think she is so innocent , but she instegates most of the stuff that goes on ,by talkiing about the other girls behind their backs .she is a snake and a two-faced bitch. And evelyn and tammi are two physco bitches.(their favorite name to call most of the other ladies). This show says a lot for these women. I can understand why they are without the best thing that ever happened to them-THE BASKETBALL HUSBANS. THESE men so much bettet off without these women. What do their kids think of these women? Im not finished with postings about these poor examlples for women and mothers. Show is a waste of air time. I dont watch it anymore. But i hope evelyn , tammi, and shaunie get their asses kicked bdecause that is what ALL BULLIES NEED.
Anonymous's picture

I think shaunie is a

I think shaunie is a low-bitch.she wants us (viewers) to think she is so innocent , but she instegates most of the stuff that goes on ,by talkiing about the other girls behind their backs .she is a snake and a two-faced bitch. And evelyn and tammi are two physco bitches.(their favorite name to call most of the other ladies). This show says a lot for these women. I can understand why they are without the best thing that ever happened to them-THE BASKETBALL HUSBANS. THESE men so much bettet off without these women. What do their kids think of these women? Im not finished with postings about these poor examlples for women and mothers. Show is a waste of air time. I dont watch it anymore. But i hope evelyn , tammi, and shaunie get their asses kicked bdecause that is what ALL BULLIES NEED.
Anonymous's picture

Evilyn is mentally ill. I

Evilyn is mentally ill. I believe the real reason her and Jenn fell out is because evelyn is a hard core dike and tried to enlist Jen to service Chad. Jenn said she didnt date no athletes and Evilyn has been mad and jealous(like a boyfriend) every since. Tammy is a sloppy messy drunk who cannot hold her liquor but I believe she can be helped with therapy. Shaunie is a lowdown snake who dont think her stuff stink. The show will be better with all three gone.
lisa's picture

Evelyn and Tami both are

Evelyn and Tami both are crazy. Grown women acting foolish and this season has been the worst!! I watched the past seasons and didn't mind the show back then. I just took it as another reality TV show but this season got so out of control that I can't stand to watch it. Those women are an embarrassment to themselves (and children) and Evelyn and Tami especially should feel ashamed of themselves. They come across like animals. The violence this season went wayyyy to far. I can't support a show like this with that many women of color attacking each other as if they have nothing else important going on in their lives. Why it that we can't have a show that shows black women in a positive light. Here are these women who act as if they have it all and when the cameras turn on, they go insane and act ignorant! If I were Shauni I would be ashamed of the show. I would hope that's not the vision/direction that she originally had for the show. They all look like trash! The show is pure trash! Like I always say...there is NO amount of money that gives anyone class. These women have none. I don't care what you buy, wear, or whatever...someone without class can never hide behind the money. The lack of class always shines through.
LadyP's picture

From Kesha's Blog: Basketball

From Kesha's Blog: Basketball Wives - Episode 12 It has been difficult for me to decide what to include in this blog entry.  As a person who prides myself on turning lemons in lemonade, I had no idea how to turn the negative display of human behavior seen in Episode 12 into something positive, until now.  Instead of knit picking, pointing fingers and calling names, I decided to educate myself on the issue at hand.  I would like to share some of this information with you now, because when we know better, we do better.   Definition of the word “Bully”:   Noun:  1.    A person who is habitually cruel or overbearing 2.   A hired ruffian; a thug   Verb: 1.    To treat in an overbearing or intimidating manner 2.   To force one’s way aggressively or by intimidation   Bullying is an act of repeated aggressive behavior in order to intentionally hurt another person, physically or mentally. Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person. Once I had a grasp on exactly what bullying was, I wanted to know why?  Why do people bully?  Here is what I found: Studies have shown that envy and resentment may be motives for bullying.  Research on the self-esteem of bullies has produced equivocal results. While some bullies are arrogant and narcissistic, others can use bullying as a tool to conceal shame or anxiety or to boost self-esteem: by demeaning others, the abuser feels empowered. I asked myself many times, as most victims of bullies do, why me?  What did I do to deserve this type of treatment?  The answer is absolutely nothing.  Bullying has nothing to do with the victim and everything to do with the internal struggle of the bully.  Bullies are simply crying out for attention that they cannot receive in other ways.  It is actually quite sad, especially when seen in adults.  Previously, when I would think of bullies and bullying, I would picture a group of big kids picking on a smaller kid on the playground.  It was only after watching myself get bullied did I realize that adult bullying exists. I found the following information interesting, informative and extremely familiar. There are several different types of adult bullies. 1.    Narcissistic Adult Bully: This type of adult bully is self-centered and does not share empathy with others. Additionally, there is little anxiety about consequences. He or she seems to feel good about him or herself, but in reality has a brittle narcissism that requires putting others down. 2.   Impulsive Adult Bully: Adult bullies in this category are more spontaneous and plan their bullying out less. Even if consequences are likely, this adult bully has a hard time restraining his or her behavior. 3.  Physical Bully: While adult bullying rarely turns to physical confrontation, there are, nonetheless, bullies that use physicality. In some cases, the adult bully may not actually physically harm the victim, but may use the threat of harm, or physical domination through looming. Additionally, a physical bully may damage or steal a victim’s property, rather than physically confronting the victim. 4.   Verbal Adult Bully: Words can be quite damaging. Adult bullies who use this type of tactic may start rumors about the victim, or use sarcastic or demeaning language to dominate or humiliate another person. This subtle type of bullying also has the advantage - to the bully - of being difficult to document. 5.    Secondary Adult Bully: This is someone who does not initiate the bullying, but joins in so that he or she does not actually become a victim down the road. Secondary bullies may feel bad about what they are doing, but are more concerned about protecting themselves. Not all bullies fit into one category.  Some adult bullies possess a variety of traits from each.  The question is, how do we handle these adult bullies?  In my research, I am yet to find the answer.  At this point, all I can do is bring awareness to the fact that adult bullying exists and should not be a behavior that is glorified. One never knows the personal struggles an individual is going through at any given moment and we need to be cautious and careful with one another.  If you are unable to come to a common ground, it is best to agree to disagree, exit stage left and remove yourself from the situation and the person that is bringing negativity into your life. What I experienced was extremely difficult and emotional for me, as I’m sure it is for all victims of bullying.  Unfortunately, I had to relive my personal experience by watching it happen on national television.  At the same time, I now have a platform to bring awareness to the issue of adult bullying in today’s society. 
Anonymous's picture

thanks for posting kesha's

thanks for posting kesha's blog. I knew I liked the girl when she first appeared this season. She is intelligent and thoughtful, just like me:) The first bully she decribed as narcissistic bully is Evelyn to a T. and the impulsive bully has Tammy's name all over it. I also believe evelyn is a sociopath. A sociopath is often well liked because of their charm and high charisma, but they do not usually care about other people. They think mainly of themselves and often blame others for the things that they do. They have a complete disregard for rules and lie constantly. They seldom feel guilt or learn from punishments. Though some sociopaths have become murders, most reveal their sociopathy through less deadly and sensational means.
lisa's picture

They are animals and one day

They are animals and one day Tami and Evelyn are gonna meet a REAL tough chick and get their asses beat! Would pay to see that!
Anonymous's picture

i am glad because this is

i am glad because this is what people endure daily sometimes and its sad that at this age we can be so ignorant. But every dog has his day .. thiers will to.. soonnneerrrr than later. :)
jessica's picture

I am hoping that someone will

I am hoping that someone will come out with a reality show of positive succesful women of color...I would love to watch it!
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