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Robin Thicke Says Loving The SAME BLACK WOMAN For 18 Years Separates His Music From Chris Brown & Drake

During a revealing chat with ESSENCE.com, Robin Thicke credits loving "the same black woman for over 18 years" as the driving force behind his hits. He also offered up his perspective on Black women dating White men.  See the highlights inside and see his wife Paula Patton stop by "106 & Park."

Robin Thicke chatted with ESSENCE.com recently where he credited loving the same woman for 18 years as what makes his music so different from his peers.  That woman, of course, is fab actress Paula Patton (who wore a multi-colored patchwork Emilio Pucci Spring 2012 embellished dress and purple Christian Louboutin ‘Bambou’ suede pumps when they posed above at the Mission Impossible: Ghost Protocol premiere.)

And while discussing interracial dating, he says he's never dated a white woman (even though his wife is bi-racial).  He says since both he and Paula have estranged relationships with one of their parents, they fill the void for each other.  And he encouraged Black women to date whomever they want.....but give Black men a chance!  See the highlights:

ESSENCE.com: Being that your music defines romance, how does it feel to know that people are getting married and making babies to your music all the time?


ROBIN THICKE: To be a part of your biggest days -- you know your child being conceived or born, or you walking down the aisle -- there’s really nothing sweeter. That’s the truth.

It’s actually the best thing. It’s nice if you can make someone drop it like it’s hot, or pop a bottle. But we’re always dropping it and popping it. What I realize about the difference between me and my peers -- you know, Chris Brown and Drizzy Drake and all my musical peers -- is that they haven’t been with the same woman for 18 years and I’ve been with a Black woman for 18 years. I’ve never dated a White woman. Don’t want to. I’ve never been on a date with a White woman. When you have that relationship and that means the most to you -- you know I can’t live without that woman, she is my muse, my best friend, and my creative partner. I didn’t have a great relationship with my mom and she didn’t have a great relationship with her dad and we became that for each other. She’s my mama and I’m her daddy. I even call her mama and she calls me daddy. We are that to each other.

ESSENCE: What is Paula’s sexiest quality?
THICKE: It’s her intelligence and her strength. I’ve never met a stronger person who stands by their will and their moral values. She is such an amazing human being. Ever since I met her and we were 16 years old and she was the president of the Black student union and I was just a silly White boy who didn’t understand or have compassion.

ESSENCE: The media often tells Black women that they’re better off dating White guys. What’s your response to that?
THICKE: I think that’s ridiculous. There are so many good Black men out there that are hardworking, decent, and handsome, you know? To start that rumor is as bad as starting any other negative rumor. There are great Black men out there. There are only a few good White men -- trust me. (Laughs) Good luck finding a good White man who understands your journey. I only have three White friends. I’ve got 20 Black male friends, who are all good men who take good care of their wives, and good care of their children. I know amazing Black men. Maybe the women have to take better care of their men. Maybe you’re being too stubborn. Maybe you’re not saying you’re sorry. You have to take good care of him, too. You have to give love to get love. 

Read more over at ESSENCE.com.

 

And speaking of Paula......

The gorgeous actress stopped by "106 & Park" this week to promote her new flick Mission Impossible: Ghost Protocol.

She looked hot in a gold Moschino dress from the Spring 2012 collection and Giuseppe Zanotti sandals. Nice!

 

 

BONUS: Since we mentioned Drake, watch his new "The Motto" video featuring Lil' Wayne and Tyga below:

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I have to say one thing- I

I have to say one thing- I was reading this article as i searched for his new song and I wanted to know a little more about Robin. I don't understand why people need to emphasize on what race somebody is. Black, white, Latina, etc- it shouldn't matter what race. We are all human beings. I was raised that no matter what color our skin is it doesn't make us any better or any worse. To say that black women are better than white or white women are better than black to me sounds really lame. We all have feelings and everyone in the world has different qualities. I just wanted to get my opinion out on this topic.
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omg i hate reading these

omg i hate reading these comments... it almost makes me feel ashamed to be black. how petty
Anonymous's picture

Give black men a chance, but

Give black men a chance, but dude dont give white woman a chance? Hmmm? But anyways.. if I had Paula Patton I wouldn't leave her, too :)
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I absolutely LOVED the way

I absolutely LOVED the way Robin put what makes him different from others so gracefully! He also loves black women! Makes me think of the interview with Taye Diggs and he continuously talked about love has NO color, YET he continued to talk about "my mama always knew I was gonna marry a white woman." LOL!! I love Robin and Paula together ;)
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Beautiful couple, I like

Beautiful couple, I like Robin Thicke's music. Of course, Paula is a black woman that's how the society will prefer to have it. White people are smart, they have pretty good strategy. Basically, let's call ones that have a drop of black blood in them BLACK because that's the closest we can deal with and they are more appealing. It's not coincidence that the black women that are praised by the media, find attractive are ones like Halle Berry, or ones that have more acceptable look. Because black women with more melanin with more negro features are just too black to be consider attractive or appealing. Michelle Obama, is the first dark skin black woman that the society has to deal with on a larger scale and they are still adjusting to it. It's easy to call Paula a black woman and attractive. I want to see more dark and brown women be more accepted by society, then I will feel like we are moving forward.
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amen

amen
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SPEAKKKKK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SPEAKKKKK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anonymous's picture

Black men like Wesley Snipes

Black men like Wesley Snipes and others who always want to be so publicly critical of Black women should take note, Robin simply stated his preference for Black women and left it at that. He didn't go into detail about the attitude of white women or why he doesn't like them and what they need to do better. He's just talking about what's working for him.
Twilightey's picture

Very nicely put!

Very nicely put!
Anonymous's picture

Spoken like a true man who

Spoken like a true man who has spent an entire lifetime with the woman he loves. We need good examples like these to look up to, since the sanctity of relationships and marriage is next to nothing in our society nowadays.
Anonymous's picture

That's right love your black

That's right love your black woman Robin! They are inspiring. To love someone more now than you did when you first met them especially after almost 20 years! That's amazing and ass long as time! On the race issue Paula told Essence that she identifies as a black women. She said her white mother told her that the world would see a black woman when they looked at her so she raised her as such...and that's exactly what happened.
Anonymous's picture

That's right love your black

That's right love your black woman Robin! They are inspiring. To love someone more now than you did when you first met them especially after almost 20 years! That's amazing and ass long as time! On the race issue Paula told Essence that she identifies as a black women. She said her white mother told her that the world would see a black woman when they looked at her so she raised her as such...and that's exactly what happened.
Anonymous's picture

Then black media or magazines

Then black media or magazines need to stop bringing it up. What happened to just asking, how is your wife, not how is it to be married to a black woman. Robin Thicke is a good musician, let's leave it as that. Black women sound so desperate all the time. poor me, I just need black men or white men to give me an approval. Go get your self esteem up. The society refers to biracial as black which makes it easier to fill out on application. But, at the end of the day, one parent is white because when we look at people like Halle Berry, Alicia keys or Paula, people will still see you as biracial, doesn't matter if you associate with your black side more. Now, if both parent are African Americans or creole or all the things that black folks like to claim due to their low self esteem, it's a different story which is also a waste of time. president obama is black. No, he's biracial because his mother is white. Now, sasha and Malia will be considered black. Tiger Woods is black, no he's biracial, he's mother is Asian. Megan good is mixed. Well, last time I checked both parent are black American. Beyonce is mixed, both parent are black American. If one of your parent is not another ethnic/race, then you are BLACK. Just like when people refer to me as latina. Born and raised in Cuba, speak spanish does not make me latina. I'm not black American either, because my family is not from America. I am simply black/African because black people are all over the world and they can all be trace back to Africa. This race issue is going to get more and more complicated esp with all this interracial and multiracial going on in the society. White people, good job for the confusion you brought on us through colonialization and slavery. Sad case.
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the white boy is just telling

the white boy is just telling you what you(black folk) want to hear
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Well said Robin...all men and

Well said Robin...all men and women should take note.
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They are a gorgeous couple so

They are a gorgeous couple so positive and cheerful. It is amazing to me that their marriage lasted as long as it has considering they met in Jr. High.
WhiteLatina's picture

For those of you who don't

For those of you who don't like Robin's music or the love he has for his wife I suggest you go listen to some Gucci Mane and support the likes of Kobe and Tiger. Now those are black folk I'm sure you can and do look up to.
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How ignorant of you. So,

How ignorant of you. So, because you don't listen or care for Robin you should like some hip hop artist or men who are known to cheat on their wives? Your logic is dumb. By the way, I could guarantee if this were some black male artist, talking about his great sex with his white wife, and how he loves white women, this whole dialogue would be different. Black women wouldn't be supporting him and putting his a** on blast. Double standards.
Anonymous's picture

Dang, almost every other day

Dang, almost every other day there is an post about what Robin Thicke says. I love the couple but a post was not necessary. We know he loves his wife and they have amazing sex, can we get something other than his relationship in the interview, like his music, and his career.
Anonymous's picture

Essence maybe geared towards

Essence maybe geared towards blacks, owned or once owned by blacks but that doesn't mean the conversation has to be about his black wife. The first questioned asked didn't even require race being discussed. Even still, he speaks about " race" in other interviews too, not just with Essence.
Anonymous's picture

HE WAS TALKING TO ESSENCE

HE WAS TALKING TO ESSENCE MAGAZINE!! BELIEVE IT OR NOT IT IS A BLACK MAGAZINE. HENCE THE EMPHASIS.
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Well I guess he was

Well I guess he was emphasizing his black wife because he was chatting with "Essence"...seems appropriate to me
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Why is he trying to shove

Why is he trying to shove this whole black thing down our throats. Yeas your wife is biracial, so what? Move on please, thank you.
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I don't care what he calls

I don't care what he calls his wife, but why always bring up his or her race? After 18 yrs of being together it shouldn't be a topic he needs to discuss. We already know, she's black he's white. Okay get it, got it, good! Now, stick to talking about music, their successful relationship her acting. But let the white black talk go already.
Anonymous's picture

For everyone who is confused

For everyone who is confused as to why he calls his wife black when she looks bi-racial is because Paula identifies with being black and not white. In fact, she almost completely ignores her white side which is another case of its own. But the facts are, Paula did an interview with Women’s Health Magazine and states she finds being called bi-racial offensive to her. "I find [the term biracial] offensive. It’s a way for people to separate themselves from African-Americans….a way of saying ‘I’m better than that, I’m black because that’s the way the world sees me.” So there you have it folks. Robin thicke considers his wife black because that is what she does. He is only supporting his wife. Whats wrong with that?
TheTruth's picture

@TheTruth re: 4:23 pm -- Tell

@TheTruth re: 4:23 pm -- Tell me, what part of Paula Patton looks Black/African American to you? She's, AT BEST, a "racially ambiguous" person (neither fish nor fowl). ..Now, mind you, she can call, or define herself however/whatever she wants - it's HER mind; HER time. But don't ask us to "dumb-down ourselves" only then to keep Paula relevant! Paula Patton is a utensil.. She's a "prop" used in a now long-playing-in-real-time blaxploitation movie. Paula Patton is used as a "carrot"(incentive) to keep black women aspiring to an impossible, deluded standard of beauty. And if you can't get/find it cosmetically, well, your children can surely "find it" with your choice of your child's father. ..Paula Patton is SOMEONE ELSE'S definition of.."us"! The mainstream wants to see us longing to look like them. If feeds their egos. It fuels a multi-billion dollar beauty/entertainment industry! Oprah Winfrey was also too, such a "booked of ratchetry". There'll always be something "wrong" with 'us'; with our relationships; with our pasts - with our futures! This is how the mainstream maintains control. This is how they make their money! I'll close by saying: Any black man who supports the "likes" of a Paula Patton is either, Gay, Asexual, or a dysfunctional combination of the two-aforementioned! X,Y,"and Z"
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you sound ignorant as hell.

you sound ignorant as hell. What is Paula supposed to look like? Her mom is white and her dad is black and the genes played out the way they did. Is Malcom X not black to you because he is part white? Is Lena Horne not black to you because she is part white? What about Halle Berry, Obama, Harry Belafonte, Adam Clayton Powell etc? What about Iman? She is not part white but she has what an ignoramous like you may consider 'white' features meaning a slim nose, high cheekbones and non-big lips. The only one pushing blaxploitation is YOU! You have contributed nothing positive in your post and have only exhibited jealousy that a white man/soul singer found love in the arms of a half black woman who identifies as black. Gon on somehwere and sit down with that mess. I think you are gay and that's why you hate Paula. You want what she already has. Sorry boo, no dick for you!
mindyabidnezz's picture

i don't really get the

i don't really get the ignorant part...how come bi-racial people can chose what they wanna be? They are what they are the same as black or white people. she can say that she's bi-racial but she likes her black side better that would be ok but saying she's black if as a matter of fact she ain't??? stick to the facts...and by the way she doesn't look black to me she looks like a latina but not black
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hands down's picture

Goddamnit i love this woman,

Goddamnit i love this woman, you keep it REAL!!!!!!!!!!!Black women gone try to find a way to justify the bullshit though
LetsGetIt's picture

A way to justify what? You

A way to justify what? You are self hatred at it's worse. Go pay your child support for your 6 kids and 5 baby mommas. Stay off the YOUNG BLACK and FABULOUS if you hate black women so much.
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Can he get off the " race"

Can he get off the " race" subject. Every interview he has to tell us about his love for blacks. Damn he promotes blacks more than blacks support blacks. I'm thrilled for their longtime and loving relationship, that is awesome. Unfortunately the more he talks the more he sounds fake IMO. Him not dating white women, really was tmi. It really isn't relevant, I dislike it when black men or women say it, he gets no pass.
Anonymous's picture

The only time Robin brings up

The only time Robin brings up race is when he is being interviewed by a black entertainment journalist and asked about black music, his black wife, and his black friends. If he didn't talk about it people would call him racist. The poor man just can't win with some people.
mindyabidnezz's picture

In 2011, nobody cares anymore

In 2011, nobody cares anymore if you are dating outside of your ethnic group except the two people who are in it. In LA, so many of them around and they always think people are paying attention especially black women but it's really old topic. I like Robin Thicke's music but it's all for publicity announcing how he loves his black wife. To think about it, she's biracial and looks almost spanish if you didn't know. So, what's all this reference to her color. Black women are the target of everything. It's like everybody is trying to make us feel left out or special in their own way. Like we are so at the bottom and need some validation from others. some of my family members are married interracially, and it's at the point where it's norm in my family. So, when I hear a black man or black women feeling special because other ethnic group is paying attention. I call it society propaganda.
whocares's picture

I find this very interesting.

I find this very interesting. I'm black and my white boyfriend of 4 years says the same thing. That he is not into white girls, and never dated one. Several of his white friends have co-signed. Seem's to be a growing trend on the East Coast. White guys are loving the sistas....
NewYawker's picture

I must agree. My (white)

I must agree. My (white) boyfriend has said the same thing & I am constantly being approached by white men and I can't complain. I like having options other than black men (even though I have no problem with black men).
Anonymous's picture

The only thing I can say is

The only thing I can say is if a black man was on that "I've never dated a black woman. I don't want to" kick, some black women would be PISSED. I don't think picking people or not picking people based on race is right, even when our race (black) is the chosen one. He needs a side eye for that line.
Niki's picture

RIGHT!!!!!!! If a black man

RIGHT!!!!!!! If a black man said that bullshit, no matter whats his reasoning, black women will come with that bullshit argument "Well isn't your MOMMA BLACK" lolll. But NOTTTTTTT ONE TIME DID THEY SAY IT TO THIS WHITE MAN!!!!!!! And you know what else is funny to me. I DON'T SEE WHITE WOMEN PROTESTING AND GOING AGAINST HIM BECAUSE HE SAID THIS.They still support his albums , still see him as attractive.They not bashing him CALLING HIM OUT HIS NAME SAYING HE'S SELF HATING OR ANYTHING.
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That's not entirely true. My

That's not entirely true. My boyfriends white and he tells me white women say things to him all the time about him dating me (a black woman). His mom cried and acted like she was in mourning when she found out I was black! She called him a race traitor! Smh
Anonymous's picture

LOL!! I love It!!! Ive never

LOL!! I love It!!! Ive never dated a white man..im a happily married woman..but i must say He is 1 white man i would date..He is Soo Right on all his Answers!!! Its a shame that ive never heard a famous black man say that about black women publicly..hmmmm..maybe i missed it
Anonymous's picture

I think white men are

I think white men are patience & loving. Unfortunately or fortunately they accept Black Women 100%. Date whomever understands you & in my experience in dating Afr Amer & White men...it's just less complicated with white guys.
Anonymous's picture

I think white men are

I think white men are patience & loving. Unfortunately or fortunately they accept Black Women 100%. Date whomever understands you & in my experience in dating Afr Amer & White men...it's just less complicated with white guys.
Anonymous's picture

Alright im not attacking

Alright im not attacking black women @"letsgetitmother" so don't come attacking me But man this shit is getting out of hand!!Goddamnit she's almost black and you love it, we get it Robin Thicke !!!!I find it funny though , just like his ancestors and other white men that have the chocolate fetish they always talking about that Godly Melanated Chocolate skin tone and how the sex is good!!!I mean Goddamn and you black women don't see nothing wrong with this shit??!!!NOTHING???But let a brotha go talking about his white woman and her WHITEEE SKIN EVERY DAMN INTERVIEWWW, AND HOW THE SEX IS GOOD. Man you black women would be on his ass and wouldn't support not ONE ALBUM!!!!!!But i don't think Robin Thicke has a thing she the Chocolate Goddess seeing how white his kids and wife look , the dude just capitalizing off black people, THEY BEEN DOING THIS SHIT FOR YEARS .....AND WE EAT THAT SHIT UP LIKE MIKEYYYYYYYYYYYYYY, "GIVE ITTTT TO HIM, HE'LL EAT ITTTTTTTT" Goddamnnnnn BLACK WOMEN!!!!!!!!The way you all are worshiping this dude make our women LOOK DESPERATE!!!!!!!!Ok the dude got Blue Eyes , White skin and Can sing, Black women like that shit. Ok we get itttttttt....... but stick to the musiccccc and when ppl ask about your wife TALK ABOUT YOUR WIFE!!!!Not about her small percentage of BLACK SHE HAVE!!And how you love the pussy so much.
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