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TV FAB: Mary J. Blige Trades Alcohol For Love On VH1's "Behind The Music"

 

Mary J. Blige aka "The Queen Of Hip Hop Soul" tells the story of her life, which involves molestation, drug abuse and issues with low self-esteem on VH1's “Behind The Music: Mary J. Blige” premiering on Sunday.

Watch a special sneak peek and get highlights from the show....

 

On Sunday, July 24th at 10 PM ET/PT on VH1, the network will air “Behind The Music: Mary J. Blige” which tells the uplifting story of the singer's rise from the Schlobohm Projects in Yonkers, NY to music royalty.

Throughout the episode, Mary opens up and get very personal about issues ranging from molestation at the age of 5 to physical abuse in her adult relationships.

Here are some select quotes from the episode:

On her adolescent years

“By the time we moved to Yonkers, to Schlobohm [Projects], it was just, you know, every man for themselves. It was like survive or die. All the women around were being beaten by men, their self esteem was low; these are the women you’re watching every single day. I’ve seen women destroyed, I’ve head their screams thru the walls as a child from being abused by men. And so that really made everything worse. By the time I was a teenager I was crazy.” – Mary J. Blige

 

On being molested as a child

“When I was 5 years old I was molested and just, you know. I remember feeling, literally right before it happened, I just could not believe that this person was going to do this to me.…That thing followed me all my life. The shame of thinking my molestation was my fault. It led me to believe I wasn’t worth anything.” – Mary J. Blige

 

Puffy, on working with Mary while at Uptown Records 

“I remember when Mary came in, everything was so glamorous in R&B. I was looking at Mary like, trying to make her glamorous would be the wrong move. She was raw, she represented the streets, so I wanted her image to reflect that. That’s why we went to the combat boots. I wanted her to represent a girl from the hood.” – P. Diddy

 

On hitting rock bottom

“The problem had snowballed into this thing that was bigger than me. It was bigger than me. And it was definitely going to kill me. So I was like this is it and let’s go. And I remember sitting on my bed. I swear, I don’t know what death feels like, but I felt like my spirit was trying to leave my body. And I was crying, and I was going please God, no no, not now, I don’t want this. I prayed, like I remember saying a prayer I said God, send me someone to help me.” – Mary J. Blige

On trading alcohol for love with Kendu Isaacs

“And for some reason, I needed that. Because he asked me, you know, why are you drinking? Ding! Answer, you hate yourself. So it was the questions that made me say eureka. Why you drinking? I hate me. Why do you hate you? You’re supposed to love you? That day was the beginning of our friendship, and him talking to me and helping me. I have a life right now. I have a life because of that phone call.” – Mary J. Blige

 

Watch Mary talk about how finding love helped her get sober here:

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No matter how many times a story is told it will always help someone. So if you don't like MJB you can always change the channel or turn the page. Simple as that~Mary fan till the end~
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Thats why she cant have kids,

Thats why she cant have kids, that was extra. What a shame, keep your head up Mary.
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MJB is one class act, since MJB has been out she has never been negative towards anyone regardless of what was said or done to her. I love this lady she's a beautiful black woman, and she makes me proud to be one.
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HMMMMM WONDER IF SHE'S GOING TO DISCUSS HOW KC KEPT HER ASS AT THE CLINIC WITH DISEASES. THAT'S WHY SHE CAN'T HAVE KIDS.
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Is that true? And I ask that

Is that true? And I ask that honestly because I wondered why she does not have any kids with her husband. I knew KC was a POS but I never heard those rumors.
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Wow that's crazy, I remember

Wow that's crazy, I remember those stories & the pregancies too. That's when Mary was coked out of her mind. I can't stand that ugly gremlin piece of shit K_Ci, that's why he's still cracked out with no career. Thank god Mary finally woke up.
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Wow that's crazy, I remember

Wow that's crazy, I remember those stories & the pregancies too. That's when Mary was coked out of her mind. I can't stand that ugly gremlin piece of shit K_Ci, that's why he's still cracked out with no career. Thank god Mary finally woke up.
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TEAM MARY ALL DAY!!!! I've been riding with Mary since 1993 ponytail through hat and steel toes boots. S.H.T stand up!!! Mary has alway's kept it real w/her music and she is still a cold piece! I'll be watching.
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To all the haters on here,

To all the haters on here, yes Mary has told her stories of struggle & survival, and just like certain ppl have pointed out it could have destroyed her & her career. I remember at one point Mary didn't want to talk about being molested & she had asked the media not to bring it up in interviews & they respected her wishes. Mary understands very well the inspiration she is to alot of ppl. So much has happen since her last Behind the Music. This is not only about Mary's struggles, this is also about her incredible 20 yr career in this fickle ass industry that she has also survived. Mary has so much to talk about in 1 hr. I will be front & center watching a legend who has changed the game. Alot of artists will never do Behind the Music because they want to act like everything is peaches & cream & they dont have struggles. In the industry it's called "smoking mirrors". Always fronting & being fake for the public. Mary keeps it 100, she's gonna give you the good & bad. DMX & Nelly & Missy had the best Behind the Music episodes so far. All hail the " Queen of hip hop soul". #R&B ICON. #MJBstan4life
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To all the haters on here,

To all the haters on here, yes Mary has told her stories of struggle & survival, and just like certain ppl have pointed out it could have destroyed her & her career. I remember at one point Mary didn't want to talk about being molested & she had asked the media not to bring it up in interviews & they respected her wishes. Mary understands very well the inspiration she is to alot of ppl. So much has happen since her last Behind the Music. This is not only about Mary's struggles, this is also about her incredible 20 yr career in this fickle ass industry that she has also survived. Mary has so much to talk about in 1 hr. I will be front & center watching a legend who has changed the game. Alot of artists will never do Behind the Music because they want to act like everything is peaches & cream & they dont have struggles. In the industry it's called "smoking mirrors". Always fronting & being fake for the public. Mary keeps it 100, she's gonna give you the good & bad. DMX & Nelly & Missy had the best Behind the Music episodes so far. All hail the " Queen of hip hop soul". #R&B ICON. #MJBstan4life
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i swear she been talking

i swear she been talking about this for the past 20 years lol
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I LOVE me some Mary. I have

I LOVE me some Mary. I have never heard this woman say a negative word about anyone else. She always was honest, raw, open. I remember the first time I listened to "what's the 411". Back then, I had a walkman, riding the train to Jamaica Queens and hearing the pain in her voice. We have all grown up with Mary, she has grown, we have grown. The only thing I would have liked to seen from her is kids (adopted or otherwise). Not just stepkids. But life is what it is and I don't know her personally so you never know. But she is such a wonderful person, it would be good to see her with her own kids. But as I said, you cannot judge because you don't know the whole picture. God bless.
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Love your comment~Loved Mary

Love your comment~Loved Mary from the beginning (Whats the 411) keep doing your thing Mary and Be Blessed!
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Accepting who you are with

Accepting who you are with all the good bad and the ugly is the first step. Learning how to love yourself is next. I'm glad Mary found her true self. It shows, look how far she's gone and how good she looks. Congrats Mary J.
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NOTHING BUT LOVE FOR YOU MARY J !!! FOR THOSE OF US WHO HAVE GROWN UP WITH HER AND SEEN HER TRANSFORM BEFORE OUR EYES -IT IS TRULY A BLESSING TO SEE HER PERFORM AND STILL ROCK HER OLD AND NEW HITS. I LOVE HER MUSIC AND THIS IS ONE OF THE 3 ARTISTS WHOSE MUSIC I WOULD ACTUALLY SPEND MONEY ON TO PURCHASE .THE HOOD DESTROYS MINDS, OULS AND LIVES SO TO SEE SOMEONE COME OUT OF THAT IS AMAZING AND TO DO WELL ENOUGH TO LOOK BACK AND SAY I WAS A MESS IS TOO REAL FOR WORDS. PEACE MARY,
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I love Mary ,i have grown with her over the years,a true fan I am. You guys with the negative comments "sit yo a**" down and read a book.
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When I read some of these comments in the blog section. I have to keep in my that its a lot of KIDS on the internet. #Internet via smartphones
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Love the growth and strength of MJB.
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I love Mary ,i have grown with her over the years,a true fan I am. You guys with the negative comments "sit yo a**" down and read a book.
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I love Mary ,i have grown

I love Mary ,i have grown with her over the years,a true fan I am. You guys with the negative comments "sit yo a**" down and read a book.
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Yea, some my have heard some of Marys story before, but some may have not. Telling her story or hearing her story again my help someone. What I love sooo much about Mary, she is REAL, no gimmicks, just RAW...no fakeness...and I guess thats why some can relate to her music. and why she will forever be an ICON. And I love her advice that she gave on Missy's behind.....be you, do you. Dont let them change into someone ur not.
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Didn't they already do one a

Didn't they already do one a show on her years ago? I like her. Kudos to her.
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Love her or hate her Mary is

Love her or hate her Mary is R-E-A-L and has been from day one since she stepped in the game in 91/92. It's good she speaks on her struggles because their are alot of young females going through what Mary has been through so its nice to see someone get thru the struggles and make it out on TOP!!! You won't here Beyonce, etc telling you their struggles, family issues etc even because they want to pretend that they grew up in the PERFECT family wiith a PERFECT life when we know nobody's life is perfect with or without money. I am not knocking Beyonce or any other artist just saying Mary is from the heart!!! We can all relate to Mary; past, present and her future in some shape or form! I am glad that she is still doing her thing in the business and she'll always be Queen of Hip Hop & R&B....thank you for getting me thru the good and the bad...MJB!!!
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Ok...I am not trying to be

Ok...I am not trying to be negative. I respect and appreciate Mary. I am inspired by her...but I was just wondering...don't we know her story already? Is this like an updated Behind the Music? Sincerely I am asking...I thought I saw one on her years ago?
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Exactly how many times Mary

Exactly how many times Mary is going to keep talking about her past. Move on in life that was the past she talked about that in like every interview my goodness give it up already.
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UMM MAYBE BECAUSE IT IS HER

UMM MAYBE BECAUSE IT IS HER LIFE ?!?!? What or who else's life is she gonna talk about ? She has grown tremendously and people are interested. Not many peopel are molested, grow up int he projects , are alcoholic and actually make something of themselves after that. So she should be proud to tell her life story and happy that anyone is interested enought o interview her about it. maybe she canhelp someone with the same story.Maybe if you are lucky enough to have a life , you will want to talk about it one day as well. hope someone wants to listen.
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She's NOT their Type....lol

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Yes I know we have heard her

Yes I know we have heard her struggles before but who knows it could be a young person out there who has not and could be going through a similar struggle. I believe it is always good for someone to continue to tell their story. You never know who life it may impact. Plus you never know this could be helping her through her healing process. It is not like she is not still faced with problems in life. Her story probably helps her through bad times and helps her not fall back into that mess.
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She has pretty eyes

She has pretty eyes
Anonymous's picture

Yeah, yeah, yeah! Oh please,

Yeah, yeah, yeah! Oh please, how many pity parties does she get to throw? IDC she's doing a whole lot better than those that are "so happy for her"! PR at its best to revive an aging star's career. pfft
Anonymous's picture

This is not a pity party you

This is not a pity party you idiot. This is Mary talking about her & her career. How does having sold over 50 million ww " revive her aging career". You sound stupid, Mary's career is better then ever.
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