[quote comment="385893"]I swear, it's stories like these that make me thankful that I didn't get pregnant by these types of guys. If i am to have a child(ren), my biggest fear is the man that I love and decide to have his child doesn't love out child more than his own life. I pray that if I have kid(s) that they father love them so much you'd think he birthed them. I want him to adore his child(ren). I will always feel resentment deep inside for my father for what could've been had he been there or at least came around. I don't want my child sitting sround like I did, longing for my father.[/quote] Yes. that is why I want to be married for awhile before I have children. Not that marriage makes anything better, but I want to know the person I want to have children with, so they won't be just MINE, but OURS.

[quote comment="385905"]my son hasnt seen his father in 5 years. but he does pay child support. which is worse...someone who pays because they are forced to but has nothing to do with the child? or someone who really may not have it to pay but are at least somewhat involved in the child's life. and yes....i have wished death upon my BD on more than one occasion.[/quote] Yeah, hes treating your son like a bill. I mean how do you have a child and not want to see him/her? I just will never understand these deadbeat niggs.

[quote comment="385905"]my son hasnt seen his father in 5 years. but he does pay child support. which is worse...someone who pays because they are forced to but has nothing to do with the child? or someone who really may not have it to pay but are at least somewhat involved in the child's life. and yes....i have wished death upon my BD on more than one occasion.[/quote] The 1st is worse...I would rather you be in his life and show him how much you love and care for him...that's what matters most.....that is what our child will remember...not that pair of air max he keeps on his feet

[quote comment="385905"]my son hasnt seen his father in 5 years. but he does pay child support. which is worse...someone who pays because they are forced to but has nothing to do with the child? or someone who really may not have it to pay but are at least somewhat involved in the child's life. and yes....i have wished death upon my BD on more than one occasion.[/quote] I say the latter. Actions speak louder than cash. But that's just me. I rather my child have a father in his life than to have a check.

[quote comment="385911"][quote comment="385884"][quote comment="385867"][quote comment="385821"][quote comment="385801"][quote comment="385780"]Well lookey, lookey.... Blahhhhhhh, we already know.... Thanks for the heads up Love!!!!!!!!!!!![/quote] I just read your comment in the last post bout your BD. That's exactly how they are. When me and my BD were together we decided that we would rotate who claimed our son each year. BIG MISTAKE! Last year he had the nerve to ask for his SSN to claim him when ALLLLL the previous year I had been financial responsible. And the same goes for last year. He bet not fix his mouth to ask me that shit this year. He'll get an ear full for real![/quote] I hear that girl..This fool just knows that I am about to come into some money and he wants a hand out....Naw nigga, naw, it's NOT going down like that!!! The baby I am carrying now, will be mine and mine only to claim.. He won't get a job because he don't want to pay CS for his other children, so I don't even think he will ask to claim my child next year....BET NOT!!!! He'll get his feelings hurt....[/quote] Damn Yetta I know they are brothers because mines is avoiding CS too. Mines better not ask me for SHIT and he knows it. I go so RAW on his ass he can't take it. He is like "you never said anything good to me, i always tell you how you are the best girl I ever had and I love how you got your shit together" and you know what I told him, Thanks and get your shit together![/quote] I know.. wanna tell them niggas to fall in line and stick to the script... If you see me doing good, then why in the he$$ do you wanna go all willy nilly lookin a mess and not even trying to come up?? :evil: :evil: :evil: And got the nerve to get mad when I tell you I don't want a relationship with you..[/quote] OKAY, then you have the audacity to keep reproducing. I say cut their D**ks off!!! Who wants to be bothered with a deadbeat dude.....a deadbeat b**ch! I use to have to make him do for his oldest kids I mean literally jump his shit. He would do it, but I was like why does someone have to tell you what to do! Oh and the kicker is his partents are married and I don't understand why he is lacking in the daddy department. Shit I am like you had both of your parents so why wouldn't you be there for your kids?!?! Ass just selfish![/quote] It's liek they wants us to COACH them on how to be fathers.. Nigga, you are a man, and you don't know how to be a father??!! That's just sad..... And not having a father around may make it harder, but darnit, it's not impossible!! Why do you want to treat your child the way your father treated you.. I don't get it.. I'd want to do 1000 times better...

[quote comment="385900"][quote comment="385893"]I swear, it's stories like these that make me thankful that I didn't get pregnant by these types of guys. If i am to have a child(ren), my biggest fear is the man that I love and decide to have his child doesn't love out child more than his own life. I pray that if I have kid(s) that they father love them so much you'd think he birthed them. I want him to adore his child(ren). I will always feel resentment deep inside for my father for what could've been had he been there or at least came around. I don't want my child sitting sround like I did, longing for my father.[/quote] A-M-E-N.[/quote] amen....

[quote comment="385916"]GQ, check your e-mail[/quote] okay... :arrow:

[quote comment="385914"][quote comment="385905"]my son hasnt seen his father in 5 years. but he does pay child support. which is worse...someone who pays because they are forced to but has nothing to do with the child? or someone who really may not have it to pay but are at least somewhat involved in the child's life. and yes....i have wished death upon my BD on more than one occasion.[/quote] It's better to have a man that will be there w/ not much to give financially than a man to not be there and give financially. There's so much a child can learn and appreciate from their father (and mother of course) that is PRICELESS.[/quote] Tell me about it! My father has never done anything for me or my brother. But a few years ago, before I started college he had another kid and he takes care of her :shock: I get the urge to burn his house down!! :evil: I know this is wrong, but I always imagine myself spitting on him or slapping him at his funeral :oops: I know it wont really make a difference, but still. I should be ashamed but I'm not.

She betta put some carmex on that thang. Blistex, somethin. And she need to stop putting her tongue on it before she have one there too

[quote comment="385916"]GQ, check your e-mail[/quote] Les why did you kill me with that piercing pictures

[quote comment="385891"][quote comment="385879"][quote comment="385875"][quote comment="385855"][quote comment="385838"]Ok I'm back. F Rhi's canker/coldsore I just want the jacket and boots. :P :P :P[/quote] Hey Whoa! aka Doll[/quote] Hey mama!! How are ya?[/quote] I am good! Loving this 4 day weekend that's coming up![/quote] OK!!!! My son was like Tuesday they told them they can come watch it on the computers I said "oh no you wont you will be watching it with the fam just like you did the DNC and the votes"[/quote] [quote comment="385912"][quote comment="385893"]I swear, it's stories like these that make me thankful that I didn't get pregnant by these types of guys. If i am to have a child(ren), my biggest fear is the man that I love and decide to have his child doesn't love out child more than his own life. I pray that if I have kid(s) that they father love them so much you'd think he birthed them. I want him to adore his child(ren). I will always feel resentment deep inside for my father for what could've been had he been there or at least came around. I don't want my child sitting sround like I did, longing for my father.[/quote] Yes. that is why I want to be married for awhile before I have children. Not that marriage makes anything better, but I want to know the person I want to have children with, so they won't be just MINE, but OURS.[/quote] You are right marriage helps because it was a time when me and hubby was really going through it and his MAIN concern was our children and what the hell he was going to do to provide for them and see them often.......

[quote comment="385926"][quote comment="385912"][quote comment="385893"]I swear, it's stories like these that make me thankful that I didn't get pregnant by these types of guys. If i am to have a child(ren), my biggest fear is the man that I love and decide to have his child doesn't love out child more than his own life. I pray that if I have kid(s) that they father love them so much you'd think he birthed them. I want him to adore his child(ren). I will always feel resentment deep inside for my father for what could've been had he been there or at least came around. I don't want my child sitting sround like I did, longing for my father.[/quote] Yes. that is why I want to be married for awhile before I have children. Not that marriage makes anything better, but I want to know the person I want to have children with, so they won't be just MINE, but OURS.[/quote] Yea girl I tell people all the time ENJOY your relationship/marriage before babies cfome. Don't be trying to get to know him after you get knocked up because the baby/responsibilty gets them irritable. But I know w/ my cousin. Her and her ex/BD, he used to be up under her ass soooo much you'd think he smelled like her shit. When she got preg, always rubbing the belly and everything. Baby comes, this FOOL pulls a 180 and straight BGOUNCED!!! Everyone till this day is shocked and KK is what 7 now? So you really never know with these men.[/quote] Why do "boys" do that?I guess they get caught up in the hype and then they get scared because reality hits them.

[quote comment="385915"][quote comment="385905"]my son hasnt seen his father in 5 years. but he does pay child support. which is worse...someone who pays because they are forced to but has nothing to do with the child? or someone who really may not have it to pay but are at least somewhat involved in the child's life. and yes....i have wished death upon my BD on more than one occasion.[/quote] The 1st is worse...I would rather you be in his life and show him how much you love and care for him...that's what matters most.....that is what our child will remember...not that pair of air max he keeps on his feet[/quote] So true, unless they are really trifling cuz the way how my sons father is I don't want my son to turn out like him. Not taking care of your own or your respinsibilities is a trait that i don't want my son to learn from him & my son's father seems to think that this job is a part-time gig & he wants to breeze in & breeze out - so i told him during our last blow up to call my son in year 2017 when he gets 18 cuz i can't deal with the BS

That's my chica! Congratulations to Rihanna for landing at her rightful spot, #1! She had a great year on top of the billboard charts; so no surprises there. Keep keeping on Rih...

Tasha you are SO unoriginal. You steal most of your verbage, and post from other websites. The rihanna caption is verbatim from the Rhymes with Snitches website from earlier this week. Using your words..."Do better in 09.

[quote comment="385929"][quote comment="385912"][quote comment="385893"]I swear, it's stories like these that make me thankful that I didn't get pregnant by these types of guys. If i am to have a child(ren), my biggest fear is the man that I love and decide to have his child doesn't love out child more than his own life. I pray that if I have kid(s) that they father love them so much you'd think he birthed them. I want him to adore his child(ren). I will always feel resentment deep inside for my father for what could've been had he been there or at least came around. I don't want my child sitting sround like I did, longing for my father.[/quote] Yes. that is why I want to be married for awhile before I have children. Not that marriage makes anything better, but I want to know the person I want to have children with, so they won't be just MINE, but OURS.[/quote] But you know what Foley..I hate to be a dream crusher...but Negros change fa real...I was married.....got pregnant...and after a while, he was like, i don't wanna be married anymore.....[/quote] Yea I understand what you're saying..I mean its just like Can a sister love anymore without all the bullshit??!?

[quote comment="385939"][quote comment="385929"][quote comment="385912"][quote comment="385893"]I swear, it's stories like these that make me thankful that I didn't get pregnant by these types of guys. If i am to have a child(ren), my biggest fear is the man that I love and decide to have his child doesn't love out child more than his own life. I pray that if I have kid(s) that they father love them so much you'd think he birthed them. I want him to adore his child(ren). I will always feel resentment deep inside for my father for what could've been had he been there or at least came around. I don't want my child sitting sround like I did, longing for my father.[/quote] Yes. that is why I want to be married for awhile before I have children. Not that marriage makes anything better, but I want to know the person I want to have children with, so they won't be just MINE, but OURS.[/quote] But you know what Foley..I hate to be a dream crusher...but Negros change fa real...I was married.....got pregnant...and after a while, he was like, i don't wanna be married anymore.....[/quote] Yea I understand what you're saying..I mean its just like Can a sister love anymore without all the bullshit??!?[/quote] I have learned my lesson...and I learned it the hard way...Sweetie, love is highly over rated......

[quote comment="385940"][quote comment="385937"]Tasha you are SO unoriginal. You steal most of your verbage, and post from other websites. The rihanna caption is verbatim from the Rhymes with Snitches website from earlier this week. Using your words..."Do better in 09.[/quote] Do you feel better now????[/quote] I hope they do!

[quote comment="385937"]Tasha you are SO unoriginal. You steal most of your verbage, and post from other websites. The rihanna caption is verbatim from the Rhymes with Snitches website from earlier this week. Using your words..."Do better in 09.[/quote] a lot of people have been saying "Do better in 09"...

NEW POST!!!!

[quote comment="385944"][quote comment="385929"][quote comment="385912"][quote comment="385893"]I swear, it's stories like these that make me thankful that I didn't get pregnant by these types of guys. If i am to have a child(ren), my biggest fear is the man that I love and decide to have his child doesn't love out child more than his own life. I pray that if I have kid(s) that they father love them so much you'd think he birthed them. I want him to adore his child(ren). I will always feel resentment deep inside for my father for what could've been had he been there or at least came around. I don't want my child sitting sround like I did, longing for my father.[/quote] Yes. that is why I want to be married for awhile before I have children. Not that marriage makes anything better, but I want to know the person I want to have children with, so they won't be just MINE, but OURS.[/quote] But you know what Foley..I hate to be a dream crusher...but Negros change fa real...I was married.....got pregnant...and after a while, he was like, i don't wanna be married anymore.....[/quote] So true, you just never know - i wasn't married on paper but we were together for 7 years, 7 years i thought i "Knew" this dude - i along with everyone i know is shocked by his behavior but my only satisfaction is that he is doing bad, real bad - itold him 'What did you think? That you would prosper? And you're not taking care of my son - you lucky you're still alive"[/quote] PREACH!!!!

LEAVE HER ALONE for CHRISTS SAKE!!!! SHE'S ONLY HUMAN!!!! I SWEAR PEOPLE BLOW THINGS WAY OUT OF PROPORTION!!! YOU STILL LOOKING FLY, RIRI!!!

NEW POST!!!

[quote comment="385933"][quote comment="385915"][quote comment="385905"]my son hasnt seen his father in 5 years. but he does pay child support. which is worse...someone who pays because they are forced to but has nothing to do with the child? or someone who really may not have it to pay but are at least somewhat involved in the child's life. and yes....i have wished death upon my BD on more than one occasion.[/quote] The 1st is worse...I would rather you be in his life and show him how much you love and care for him...that's what matters most.....that is what our child will remember...not that pair of air max he keeps on his feet[/quote] PREACH!!!!! My son's dad was like that. He around 100% when he got doe then he dont he's gone. I'm like you've been schooled wrong on being a dad. You think he knows or gives a damn who bought this or that. All he knows is who spends time with him. And my son would get hype just seeing him. But this dumb ass stl dont get it[/quote] That's how mines is and I told him TIME don't cost a dollar, but when he doesn't do that part and still tripping on the funds it pisses me off and I blow up on his ass because I am letting you make it on the funds in exchange for the TIME because I got the funds part covered for now and that b**tch can't even do that. So now it's like WWF around here I go straight hard on him! You got time to go on dates so f**k what he is talking about. I can't hear ya homie!

[quote comment="385942"][quote comment="385919"][quote comment="385911"][quote comment="385884"][quote comment="385867"][quote comment="385821"][quote comment="385801"][quote comment="385780"]Well lookey, lookey.... Blahhhhhhh, we already know.... Thanks for the heads up Love!!!!!!!!!!!![/quote] I just read your comment in the last post bout your BD. That's exactly how they are. When me and my BD were together we decided that we would rotate who claimed our son each year. BIG MISTAKE! Last year he had the nerve to ask for his SSN to claim him when ALLLLL the previous year I had been financial responsible. And the same goes for last year. He bet not fix his mouth to ask me that shit this year. He'll get an ear full for real![/quote] I hear that girl..This fool just knows that I am about to come into some money and he wants a hand out....Naw nigga, naw, it's NOT going down like that!!! The baby I am carrying now, will be mine and mine only to claim.. He won't get a job because he don't want to pay CS for his other children, so I don't even think he will ask to claim my child next year....BET NOT!!!! He'll get his feelings hurt....[/quote] Damn Yetta I know they are brothers because mines is avoiding CS too. Mines better not ask me for SHIT and he knows it. I go so RAW on his ass he can't take it. He is like "you never said anything good to me, i always tell you how you are the best girl I ever had and I love how you got your shit together" and you know what I told him, Thanks and get your shit together![/quote] I know.. wanna tell them niggas to fall in line and stick to the script... If you see me doing good, then why in the he$$ do you wanna go all willy nilly lookin a mess and not even trying to come up?? :evil: :evil: :evil: And got the nerve to get mad when I tell you I don't want a relationship with you..[/quote] OKAY, then you have the audacity to keep reproducing. I say cut their D**ks off!!! Who wants to be bothered with a deadbeat dude.....a deadbeat b**ch! I use to have to make him do for his oldest kids I mean literally jump his shit. He would do it, but I was like why does someone have to tell you what to do! Oh and the kicker is his partents are married and I don't understand why he is lacking in the daddy department. Shit I am like you had both of your parents so why wouldn't you be there for your kids?!?! Ass just selfish![/quote] It's liek they wants us to COACH them on how to be fathers.. Nigga, you are a man, and you don't know how to be a father??!! That's just sad..... And not having a father around may make it harder, but darnit, it's not impossible!! Why do you want to treat your child the way your father treated you.. I don't get it.. I'd want to do 1000 times better...[/quote] That's why you as a woman need to watch who YOU lay down with. Not placing blame on all mothers but I can't side w/ them all the time. Most of the times females know exactly what type of guys they are laying with. But you are the one that's in love, not him. You're the one that's responsible, hell you have to be, not him. Like "I am Me" said the other day, it's the no goods that slang the best dick. And a lot of these men didn't grow up w/ a father nor did they have positive male figures in their lives, so technically they DON'T know hot to be a father. Not saying that's an excuse because there are men who grew up fatherless and are excellent fathers to their seed(s) because they don't want their child to experince that. My brother chick stay trying to get preggers for him. I'm like damn bitch don't you have any ambition? My brother ain't got shit poppin for himself and what he gonna give you but a belly full of cum. That's why I know it's not the man's fault all the time. Men think w/ there dicks. Pussy is so good they just want to savor the moment, not worry about the possibilty of life that may come about because of it. Women HAVE to be more careful w/ who they lay w/ or just in general who you wanna procreate with.[/quote] True words. Most of the females I was friends with use to stay try to get knocked up and when they got knocked up they cry and whine and want their mommas and grandmothers to take care of their kids while they out clubbing like a couple weeks later after having the baby.They missed their freedom and always called me to look after their babies because they figured I didn't have anything to do and most of the time I didn't because I was still in HS.I'm like why you wasted time trying getting knocked up and you not going to take care of your responsiblity?Better yet, be accountable!Bringing innocent children in this world just because you want to have a baby shower. :roll: