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Julia Hudson: My Love For Someone May Have Costed My Family

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Julia Hudson, sister of Jennifer Hudson, updated her myspace page. She spoke about the deaths of her mother Darnell Hudson, brother Jason Hudson, and only son Julian. And she says that loving a certain person may have cost her the beautiful family she had. Here's a snippet:
LETS SEE IM 29 YEARS OLD I HAVE ONE CHILD AND I'M ALWAYS BORED, I LOVE TO HAVE FUN EVEN START A LITTLE S*** HERE AND THEIR i HAVE TWO YOUNGER SIBLINGS MY SISTER IS JENNIFER HUDSON YES THE JENNIFER HUDSON AND MY BROTHER IS JASON,I GUESS IT'S TIME TO UPDATE THIS WHEN I STARTED MY MYSPACE ALL OF THE ABOVE WAS TRUE , NOW BECAUSE I CHOSE TO DO WHAT WAS NATURAL TO ME AND LOVE SOMEONE , IT COST ME MY BEAUTIFUL FAMILY MY WONDERFUL BEAUTIFUL LOVING SUPPORTING MOTHER DARNELL, MY TRUE BLUE BABY BROTHER JASON , I LOVE U BIG BABY ... AND LAST BUT NEVER NOT LEAST MY ONLY SON JULIAN , MY INNOCENT BABY ONE THAT WAS SHELTERED FROM ALL THE EVIL OIN THE WORLD BECAUSE WE LOVED HIM SO MUCH...
She also addresses the questions as to why she was updating her myspace page throughout this tragedy:
THAT WAS A WAY TO MAYBE HELP ME GET MY SON, MY BABY THE ONE I CARRIED UNDER MY HEART FOR 8 1/2 MONTHS THE SON IT TOOK ME 21 HOURS OF LABOR TO BRING HERE THE SON I GREW TO KNOW AND LOVE FOR JUST A FEW MONTHS OVER 7 YEARS THATS WHY ...
She goes on to thank her loving friends and fans for all that they did throughout these last few horrifying days. And she left her status as "numb". There is still no update on William Balfour who has been in custody since Friday. William's girlfriend, however, tells police he is indeed involved in the slayings. And it seems as though Julia is speaking about him when she talks about loving someone who could have cost her family. So sad.
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I am talking to everybody out

I am talking to everybody out there who is reading this comments rather you are a boy or girl man or lady if you are in a bad relationship where you are being beat on or just a bad augement where it's not going anywhere leave it does not make any since on holding on to someone who is not there for you when it's over it's over move on there are someone out there for you if you allow yourself to move on love hurts but thats just life and if you have a child don't bring just anybody around your family because you never know but in this case she was or still is married to this man so thats another stories we don't know only what we heard from others like the media and somethime they can be wrong. Just keep the family in prayers because right now thats what they need.
Cha's picture

my heart goes out to jennifer

my heart goes out to jennifer and julia. to the people that have problems with julia on her myspace page, you have to understand, shes facing reality, but then shes not. she is going to go through these different stages of grief. she is numb to the fact that her child is gone forever. people grieve differently. i understand how she feels. i lost a child when she was 3 weeks. she died in my arms and it took me for a loop. i watched my baby girl take her last breath and i went numb. i went back to work, and tried to occupy myself in order to not feel the pain. i gave all her belongings to her father so i wont feel that pain. but eventually it finally hit me and it hit hard. i was depressed for almost 2 years but i had to be strong because i had my 4 year old to care for. losing a child is something you will never get over,she has this in her mind and will be forever..give her some empathy. i believe whats some women problems like julia is that they want to be in love with being in love. they think they can change a man and mold him to the perfect man of their dreams like this is a fairy tale or movie. some women are so insecure and lonely that they will settle for less. like the saying goes,"never settle for less because you will always get less of what you asked for..." i tell my younger sistas that are mothers not to have men running in and out of their houses and trusting these men because they make charm you but you dont know if they are using you because youre appear weak and/or could be interested in molesting your child. stop making it easy for these men.. like i said before, it's time to give ourselves a reality check and make better choices if not for us, then our children.... rest in peace to all the people that have lost their lives so violently because of ignorance.
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[quote comment="256470"]I

[quote comment="256470"]I know this is going to sound harsh, but it has to be said...black folks have this idea that certain things should be left unsaid. true. However, when are these women going to wake up and smell the coffee? This woman made the consentious choice to marry this "thug", and accept what he dished out prior to this tragic event. That being said, why wasnt he arrested when he stole her car and sold it? Because she would have felt like a "snitch", and didnt want him to go back to jail? why would she still have the pictures on her page of the killer? (okay, so he hasnt been charged, but his alibi fell through and he had threatened her before w death) why wouldnt she believe him? this clown did 7 years for ATTEMPTED MURDER. She should have been reporting this to the police and getting personal protection orders. It angers me because I have a girlfriewnd in a similar situation. Me and her have been friewnds for 20 + years and just last monday he rushed into HER house and whipped on her and his male friend for trying to intervene. You know why? because he told her the same thiung this sucka told julia. You cant have anybody but I can. Then he proceeded to tell her that when he wants to see his daughter, SHE is to bring her over there, and she is to answer the phone when he calls. After breaking her phone in half tearing up her house, and almost breaking her arm, what does she do? next day she takes her over to his house. Mind you the idiot is 10 years younger than her, on social security because of a bad hip, has another girlfriend, has spit in her face,and has a growing cocaine problem, with not even a GED. I have washed my hands of the situation and pray for my nieces because I know deep down that hes going to be on a coke binge and hurt one of them. But our hands are tied. Situations like this can be avoided, but self esteem is a mofo and these predators prey on that which they perceive as weak. Sorry so long, but I couldnt contain it anymore. Peace and Blessings to all, including the Hudson family, and women, PROTECT YOUR CHILDREN.[/quote] GOD! YOU ARE SOOOO RIGHT!!! AND THE SAD THING IS THAT THERE ARE SOOO MANY BLACK WOMEN WHO ARE FACING SIMILAR SITUATIONS AS YOUR FRIEND; AND I AM TALKING ABOUT HARD WORKING, FINANCIALLY STABLE BLACK WOMEN WHO END UP WITH THESE MENACES TO SOCIETY. I DON'T KNOW WHETHER IS SELF HATE, LOW SELF ESTEEM OR FEAR THAT MAKES THESE WOMEN FIND EXCUSES TO STAY IN THOSE KIND OF RELATIONSHIPS BECAUSE YOU CAN YELL SENSE INTO HER TILL THE COWS COME HOME BUT YOU KNOW SHE WILL NEVER LEAVE THAT MAN. INFACT BY THIS TIME SHE COULD BE ADDICTED TO BEING THE VICTIM, THATS WHY SHE KEEPS COMING TO YOU WITH THE SAME BULL SHIT OVER AND OVER AGAIN!! NEXT TIME WHEN SHE WANTS TO COMPLAIN ABOUT HER CRAP JUST SAY YOU HAVE SAID AND HEARD ALL YOU HAVE TO HEAR AND THE DRAMA IS BRINGING YOU DOWN TOO SO NOMORE! AND YOU WILL SEE ONE DAY SHE WILL WAKE UP BECAUSE THERE IS NOONE AROUND TO FEED HER "POOR ME" ADDICTION. I HOPE IT HAPPENS SOONER AND NOT "TOO LATE"
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[quote

[quote comment="256347"][quote comment="256327"]I hope this is a wake up call for all girls who like "thugs" and "dope boys". I see so many college girl's who talk to these fools. Any person you associate they will join with you. Being selective about your friends does not make you a snob or prissy, it makes you wise and it shows that you honor yourself and your family. R.I.P. Julian, Jason, and Ms. Darnell And may God strengthen Julian and Jennifer[/quote] You are so right. I am a little older than some of the bloggers on this site, and I must say that this tragedy is a wake up call. I have had the benefit of living and learning, and I thank God everyday that he removed the thugs I thought I loved when I was younger. See there is nothing wrong with finding a man who will treat you like a young lady or the women you are. A man who will put his hands on you, threaten you or your family, cheat and lie to you is not a man who loves you or a man at all. The saddest thing is this type of domestic violence happens often, it just doesn't hit mainstream media like this story has. My prayers go out to the Hudson and King family.[/quote] You are both right! There is some women out there who are so scared of their own shadows to the extent that they will say hook up with all kinds of men be it thugs, cheaters, drug dealers, dudes in jail, dudes who just came out of jail, wife or girlfriend beaters, attempted murderers you name it! If these women think loneliness was unbearable well what these no good men could bring to their lives, could be even worse. Women need to love and respect themselves and pick partners who are worthy, not just a fill ins.It is okay to be alone. It is even most importantly to be selective when you are a mother or have a family you care about; it is your responsibility to protect them. A felon is a felon stay away from these thugs; there is nothing you can do to change them!! They are grown adults, you can't save them, they can only save themselves. But one thing I don't get from this woman-why is she always on my space even when the son was missing, I find it quite strange. I guess maybe thats her way of dealing with this tragedy but....... God bless them and help them with their grief.
Veritas's picture

i agree that writing can be

i agree that writing can be therapy...but come on, if i had gone through a tragedy of that nature, the last thing i'd be thinking about is updating my doggone myspace page...i barely go on there anyway. although i do know people that are on their CONSTANTLY (anyone remember blackplanet) maybe for those folks it makes sense. above all, RIP to those lost in the tragedy.
lyd's picture

The whole situation is truly

The whole situation is truly disheartening...my condolences go out to the family. I understand that I'll get heat for what I'm about to write next but I really don't care. The poor grammar in reporting stories is really upsetting. "My love for someone may have costed me my family". "Costed" is not even a real word.If you are going to report news please use a spell checker. I really like browsing this blog on the daily but the poor attention to grammar takes away from the stories.
SoothSayer's picture

Ok, I have a lot of sympathy

Ok, I have a lot of sympathy for this dumb ass bitch, Julia. At the same time, she knew fucking well that that crazy motherfucker she brought into her son's life was a nut and she continued to have a relationship with him. Maya Angelou said, "When someone tells you who they are, believe them!" That stupid evil bastard threatened to kill her whole family, Jennifer could have been one of those who were slaughtered. Why did this have to happen? As single parents, I know that it gets lonely at times but we have children to protect and raise and this lady dropped the ball. I have stopped dating a few men who I did not think were safe (mentally) for my child and self. Our children come first and we cannot afford to become relaxed or desperate when it comes to dealing with who are not the father's of our children. My heart goes out to Julia, even though I am very upset with Julia and how she let her guard down...look at the price she paid. No child, no mother, no brother.
Petunia's picture

ok, i feel bad for what i

ok, i feel bad for what i just wrote. i looked at her page some more and realized this girl just doesn't know any better. in any case, i was being to0 critical. she is what she is and she actually reminds me of friends and family members. i still think it's inappropriate though, we need to do better.
luker's picture

i don't care what none of

i don't care what none of y'all say! she needs to take down that damn myspace page immediately. i'm reading through it and the survey that she has up and granted it was probably done before this tragedy occured but i think if you have time to update your status or whatever that section is that she wrote that note in then she can take down those crass surveys where she says this in response to this question: Want to have kids?: WHETER I WANTED TO OR NOT HIS ASS IS HERE . like i said before i know this was done before the incident but sh1t!!! take that sh1t down!!! it's not a good look. and i know that people say anything goes and is acceptable when grieving but you can mourn and have some dignity at the same time. and that myspace page is anything but dignified. sorry for cursing but the whole situation upsets me and then seeing her myspace page upsets me even more. i feel sorry for them and will pray for them, but i just couldn't ignore that crap.
luker's picture

This woman has the audacity

This woman has the audacity to thank her "fans"???? WTH??? She is soooo irresponsible by letting this man near her son. Single mothers are the perfect prey for perverts trying to get near kids. Julias myspace is so nasty and disgraceful if you really read she talks about how her favorite sport is SEX and how she likes good d*ck, on her page... IRRESPONSIBLE! Where is this angels real father?? This is all soooo tragic and sad! God bless that little boy.
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[quote comment="256320"]I

[quote comment="256320"]I just dont understand what happened to this loving family. My prayers go out to them. However I dont understand how her sister can be on tv and the internet updating a page about her family when this terrible thing has happen. Something is just not right with her in this situation. I think the police need to look at the sister to. It seems she is saying she knows this guy did it. If so she needs to come clean. What is done in the dark will come to light. God said so in the word. Everyone keep watchin something is not right. I could be wrong..... Love for the Hudsone family.[/quote] HER QUOTE}NOW BECAUSE I CHOSE TO DO WHAT WAS NATURAL TO ME AND LOVE SOMEONE , IT COST ME MY BEAUTIFUL FAMILY
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cass On Oct 28, 2008 at 3:57

cass On Oct 28, 2008 at 3:57 pm | Reply | Quote WHY WAS HR FAM SILL LIVIN THE HOOD….SHAME ON U JENNIFER Jennifer tried to get her Mother to move but she didn't want to.
Observer's picture

Passing judgment isn't cool,

Passing judgment isn't cool, but Julia saying she has fans is asinine....I mean really supporters/fans would have to wait, becuz everyone has an opinion, so the same folks u logging on myspace for to thank are the same one's logging onto blogs with their negative opinions. Damned if you do and damned if you don't....but either way God knows best and God Bless!
yazmar's picture

At first I was going to say

At first I was going to say -- this article wasn't suspect but after I read the last excerpt I agree. I'm not going to comment any further. This is too sad. How can someone to that to a little innocent kid let alone -- someone's entire family.
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I am touched very deeply by

I am touched very deeply by this tragedy. It hurts. My thoughts and prayers goes out to the Hudson family. I will add this, Julia sweetheart you should have chosen someone decent and not someone that you can blog about like this. You should have been got rid of him. He seems tacky and with all due respect you seem alittle umph! I will not even go there right now. I know this is a very serious time. I will allow you and your family time to grieve. I do send love out in the universe for the entire Hudson family. May the creator bless you all.
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huh,what? what does she mean

huh,what? what does she mean she wants to thank her fans,girl you don't have any fans jennifer does,i really am starting to believe that shes theattention she's gettin b/c for once in her life people are paying attention to her but for all the wrong reasons,b/c you are responsible along with your husband for the death of your family!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
sheri872's picture

[quote comment="256602"]WTF!!

[quote comment="256602"]WTF!! She said she has FANS. No honey you have supporters, there is a difference. Your sister has FANS. I dont give a RAT'S ASS. Your only son just found shot in the HEAD and you GOT time trying to set FOLKS straight. OMG she is pissing me the f&##@ off!!!![/quote] Really? You are pissed? This is getting to be ridiculous...If I read one more "while I know people grieve differently," but then go on to say what they would do in that situation, I'm gonna lose my mind....Clearly, you guys don't "know" or "understand" this very important fact because if you did there would be no need for any further declarations and equally contradictory statement about what you would or wouldn't do in this situation.....We can all incessantly hypothesize about what we would do in any given situation, but no-one knows for sure until they are in it, and please know that whatever your reaction may be, it will be based solely on you, which is as individual and unique as your DNA......Sadly for some, we, humans, are not one big homogenous, cookie cutter group of people, and thus our decisions/choices/actions/thoughts/ in any given situation are based on and/or impacted by so many variables: personality, culture, race, gender, religion, norms and values......So please stop with the nonsense and the condemnation and either leave your well-wishes for the Hudson fam or keep it pushin'!!!!!
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Goddamn it! Julia's ass is

Goddamn it! Julia's ass is the blame she had NO BUSINESS bringing that type of fool into her life around her family and especially her son. The dude has a felony for ATTEMPTED MURDER,ANGER MANAGEMENT ISSUES, SUBSTANCE ABUSE...His father is inprisoned for murder, his brother has been imprisoned as well.. DAMN.. What kind of responsible mother makes a such judgement call for the type of man to put in her life, in a relationship, to trust your child with?????? Allow this m*thaf*cka to paroled to your mother's house???? I put money that he physically assualted her in front of her son numerous times... Why do you have time or the composure to updated a damn MYSPACE.COM page????? This William dude would have been dead before they took him into custody, If it were my family.. No question
blu_les's picture

It is impossible for me to

It is impossible for me to comprehend anger that would drive someone to take another person's life. As a mother and a grandmother my heart aches for this family's loss. May they the find strength to move forward, in the love they have for one another. May you be surrounded with love.
Mono's picture

WHY WAS HR FAM SILL LIVIN THE

WHY WAS HR FAM SILL LIVIN THE HOOD....SHAME ON U JENNIFER
cass's picture

[quote

[quote comment="256379"][quote comment="256365"][quote comment="256354"]Am I the only one who thinks Julia is enjoying this attention? Somethin' ain't right..............[/quote] something suure ain't right--YOU!! HORRID!![/quote] She does like the attention... I didn't want to say it, because it's all so sad.. but it seems like it.[/quote] i dont think shes 'enjoying the spotlight'. but shes the sister of an oscar winner living in the hood. all the attention is typically on her sister. and now because of her sisters fame, she has suddenly been thrust into the spotlight. someone in their family has to say something. and sadly, its just the 2 of them now. what is she supposeded to do? theres 24 hours in the day, she cant take 10 minutes to talk about she feels about her family?? she knows people are watching (and not just you haters judging her), but she has friends and people too whose only way of reaching out to her is through myspace. some of yall are really somthing else. this just happened friday, let the investigation unfold a little before you start in with that. it probably doesnt feel good to be her right now.
ashley's picture

Upon learning of the tragedy

Upon learning of the tragedy in Jenniffer Hudson's family, I became compelled to write this note. Dear Jenniffer: I know the hurt your heart suffers and my prayers are with you. Please know and believe: God gives us LOVE; Something and Someone to love, God lends us!!! Thank God for the loan of your mother, brother and nephew and the time he loaned you your three, beautiful relatives!!! May God continue to keep you and bless you and yours!!!
sheila's picture

Hello there, It is very sad

Hello there, It is very sad that some of our sistas DO NOT understand that the tragedy is not choosing to love...the tragedy is choosing DYSFUNCTIONAL MEN. What a horrible, sad, tragic story….but although one of the family members THIS time is a celebrity and Oscar-winner….THIS STORY keeps showing up in print in papers all over the country on a daily basis: Black families dealing with the aftermath of murder. In this case, it seems that perhaps there was a mentally or emotionally ill person who had access to the family, who regularly caused mayhem for the family and was never viewed by the family as a possible murderer… far too many black folks DO NOT think mentally ill people are dangerous for reasons I can not understand. Why do we continue saying “he’s tripping!” and “she’s tripping!” instead of naming the behavior what it is: UNTREATED mental and emotional illness! How many more relatives have to show up in tears and NOT even realize that their complacency in addressing mental dysfunction in their own homes and families is part of the tragedy? As we pray for this family, let us pray for ALL OF THE FAMILIES whose tragedies do not have the national spotlight but whose pain and sorrow is not any less. Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS! Lisa
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[quote comment="257413"]This

[quote comment="257413"]This is very sad. I feel for their entire family. People who are commenting on thugs, etc., get your head out the sand. A man in a suit who speaks with perfect grammar can commit the same crime, and they have. You have to be careful, then again, sometimes you just never know.[/quote] I completely understand your view point and I try to be open because everyone is intitled to their opinion. But I do feel like you when you say that a man in a suit can commit the same crime..very true..but this man had a record..the signs were there and she ignored him..maybe thinking that he'd change..he already had a rap sheet and did 7 years in jail for attempted murder.If I met a guy that told me that I would run...no need for me to get to know him. I met a guy in church who I thought was great and he turned out to be the devil. Very well dressed and educated. I saw the some signs in him and I ran like hell! I will never stay with a man that has threatened me or my family, I love my family and value my life too much.
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I think most of yall are

I think most of yall are kinda sick too for sympathizing with a woman desperate to have sex apparently with any man. Julia Hudson had knowledge she was involved with a thug on parole for attempted murder. He told her that he would kill her family. She has paid a terrible price for her desperation of a man. I hope many single women with children will learn from this.
Gee's picture

Who are we to judge how

Who are we to judge how someone should act in a situation like this? She has her way of dealing with this and you have yours. Different people react to things in different ways. I'm sure that just like in all deaths, it really doesn't hit you until later. It doesn't really hit you until all the attention and people are gone. Right now she, the family, as well as we all are in shock. All I can say is there are lessons to be learned in this situation for everyone. Julia don't let the deaths be in vain. Talk, teach. Talk to these young girls. Talk to them about threats, talk to them about dealing with certain people. Use this as a platform. In every situation, there is a lesson to learn. Use this lesson to help others. People need to hear your story. Use this time for you and lean on your family. I pray for you and your family. I nor anyone can understand nor do we feel your pain. Pray for God to lead you. There's a platform here to be used. GOD BELSS YOU!!
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[quote comment="256796"]as i

[quote comment="256796"]as i read some of these mixed emotions/comments i look is aw at some of the things that people wrote...not just on this board but on others also... you have some people who place blame on Julia-and i dont see how in a million years this could be her fault. like this man came up to her and was like bitch im a murder ya family...im pretty sure thats not what happened.. then u have people who says things like "we as black women" no dont speak for black women as a whole speak on ya own behalf.. i guarantee 99% of "black women" who have been in f""ked up relationships didnt have an intentions on it turning out the way it did..bad boy, thug, preacher, saint it dont matter what category he fall under at the end of the day NOBODY IS EXEMPT!! its sad that at a time like this, in this situation whether its a famous person or not people play the BLAME GAME...That girl didnt know that he was gonna do some dumb shit like that. and i dont think for a moment that ANYBODY in this situation had they woulda known it was gonna turn out like this WOULD HAVE STAYED...simple as that! I dont get when a person say we as black people or we as black women..cause truth of the matter is this coulda happened if you were white, hispanic, chinese etc... NO WE AS PEOPLE need to get our sh""t together..cause this is ridiculous...and very UN-CALLED FOR![/quote] I know that's right!
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[quote comment="257413"]This

[quote comment="257413"]This is very sad. I feel for their entire family. People who are commenting on thugs, etc., get your head out the sand. A man in a suit who speaks with perfect grammar can commit the same crime, and they have. You have to be careful, then again, sometimes you just never know.[/quote] Um...this guy was on parole for attempted murder...the arguments some people make...smdh
christine's picture

[quote

[quote comment="256379"][quote comment="256365"][quote comment="256354"]Am I the only one who thinks Julia is enjoying this attention? Somethin' ain't right..............[/quote] something suure ain't right--YOU!! HORRID!![/quote] She does like the attention... I didn't want to say it, because it's all so sad.. but it seems like it.[/quote] So true. How can you lose your mother, brother and son and still have the apetite to update your myspace page!!! what has come of the world. what next, an album? Julia I'm sorry you lost your family. We don't blame you but we think it is tasteless to update your myspace page.
christine's picture

Fly chica wrote: excuse all

Fly chica wrote: excuse all my errors in my last post I was typing so fast,because I am so angry and Sad for Julia at the same time. Julia if you are on these blogs and reading comments….I have one thing to say….take those DAMN pictures off of that no good killa ass nicca and pay tribute to your Beloved SON,MOTHER, BROTHER with some pictures if you need to use Myspace as an outlet. Just a thought! DONE Well Said!!
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[quote comment="256557"]first

[quote comment="256557"]first things first we CANT HELP who we love...and LOVE IS BLIND....people make mistakes (black, white, short, tall, skinny small) WE ALL DO IT!! when u get into a relationship with someone u dont think that stuff like this is gonna happen....its crazy how i read on boards that she shoulda did this or he coulda did that....at the end of the day she LOVED THAT MAN and never in a million years THOUGHT IT WOULD COME TO THIS.... come on people!![/quote] I disagre with one point. We can help who we fall in love with, people choose who they fall in love with by making themselves available. We have all made mistakes, including myself, and the ONLY thing separating us from the consequences of our choices is God's Grace & Favor. I'm married now, but when I was dating, when guys try to holla I would ask them how many kids do you have? I did not want any baby momma drama. When a guy pushed me because I did not call him, I never spoke with him again even though his uncle tried to pressure me into calling him. On a first date, when a guy who was cute as can be and had swagger for days, tried to force me to kiss him, I stopped seeing him because I felt who knows what else he would force me to do. When a bi-racial guy, called me a bitch when we were dating, because he felt people had to kiss his azz, because he was light and had 'good hair' - told him to fuck off. I met a guy once who was recovering from crack addiction, while we dated, I NEVER took him to my home or showed him were I lived because whose to say people relapse all the time. Some shit is going to happen no matter how careful you are, but do not act like we are MINDLESS drones, and always the victim of our circumstances. Sometimes there are no signs, but most times there are. I'm tired and sick to my stomach of black women not getting the love we deserve, begging black men to respect us, to value us. We do not deserve this SHIT and I'm tired to the point of puking. With God's HELP we can make a DIFFERENT choice.
FabLife2008's picture

i'm sorry but something about

i'm sorry but something about this makes me very uncomfortable....julia hudson is not acting like a woman who just lost her brother, mother and only child should as far as i'm concerned, she should be interrogated...
why?'s picture

This is very sad. I feel for

This is very sad. I feel for their entire family. People who are commenting on thugs, etc., get your head out the sand. A man in a suit who speaks with perfect grammar can commit the same crime, and they have. You have to be careful, then again, sometimes you just never know.
Dest's picture

The entire situation is sad

The entire situation is sad beyond belief. But what I feel is the worst is the fact that the baby is gone. He didn't do anything to anyone. The type of person it takes to kill another human being is beyond me. However, the type of animal it takes to end a baby's life is base and vile.
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[quote

[quote comment="256598"]excuse all my errors in my last post I was typing so fast,because I am so angry and Sad for Julia at the same time. Julia if you are on these blogs and reading comments....I have one thing to say....take those DAMN pictures off of that no good killa ass nicca and pay tribute to your Beloved SON,MOTHER, BROTHER with some pictures if you need to use Myspace as an outlet. Just a thought! DONE[/quote] Amen Sista!!!
Sasha Fierce's picture

[quote

[quote comment="256598"]excuse all my errors in my last post I was typing so fast,because I am so angry and Sad for Julia at the same time. Julia if you are on these blogs and reading comments....I have one thing to say....take those DAMN pictures off of that no good killa ass nicca and pay tribute to your Beloved SON,MOTHER, BROTHER with some pictures if you need to use Myspace as an outlet. Just a thought! DONE[/quote] Amen Sista!!!
Sasha Fierce's picture

[quote

[quote comment="256598"]excuse all my errors in my last post I was typing so fast,because I am so angry and Sad for Julia at the same time. Julia if you are on these blogs and reading comments....I have one thing to say....take those DAMN pictures off of that no good killa ass nicca and pay tribute to your Beloved SON,MOTHER, BROTHER with some pictures if you need to use Myspace as an outlet. Just a thought! DONE[/quote] Amen Sista!!!
Sasha Fierce's picture

@ Bitch Please Julia case is

@ Bitch Please Julia case is when love is not enough! Sometimes in relationships love is not enough and this is one of those times. The reason I blame her is because she chose than man. She let him take her car, he lived with her mom. And was currently staying with another woman. We as woman HAVE TO stop thinking of ourselves only. Julia never mentioned she had a son on her myspace page. Why? I feel like she was with that man because she felt as if she could not do any better. And it has cost her families life! Thats when you have to ask yourself, is love worth it? Of course no one would stay in a relationship if they knew their family was going to get murdered. But what we have to do is NOT GET IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT COULD END LIKE THIS! God gives us a gift and it is called discernment! That means we get insight on a situation or a person with out any facts, but something within is telling us something. It is God given insight that he gives us to protect us from situations like this. When men come in our lives and our spirit says no but our "heart" says yes, then we must ask is love worth it? There will be times ladies when we may love a man who God does not have for us! If we "will" the relationship and stay when we have seen signs that he is no good we have to look in the mirror when things go wrong! When situations end like this bp, it is RARELY a case where it just happened out of the blue and no one seen it coming. God talks to us, we just have to find the courage to listen!!!
Natasha's picture

It takes a lot of guts to

It takes a lot of guts to admit something like this. I pray for Julia and Jennifer.
Lacey's picture

[quote comment="256968"]The

[quote comment="256968"]The sources also said Balfour's girlfriend contradicted his alibi and told police that he was involved in the slayings. at least the girlfriends aint gonna lie for him. He aint nothing but the DEVIL. I feel bad for the girlfriend too, her baby daddy is a killa. How do you explain that to a child that wants to know about his father.[/quote] You think she's stupid, she's got sense - she don't want her child born in no prison hospital for aiding & abetting a damn murderer! Not to mention conspiracy! She did the smartest thing possible & she better KNOW that she came (snap your finger) this close to having this happen to her too cuz if he is carrying on like this over Julia who didn't have a kid for him how would he react with this chick who (is having) has a child for him?!?!?!?
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The sources also said

The sources also said Balfour's girlfriend contradicted his alibi and told police that he was involved in the slayings. at least the girlfriends aint gonna lie for him. He aint nothing but the DEVIL. I feel bad for the girlfriend too, her baby daddy is a killa. How do you explain that to a child that wants to know about his father.
SMH's picture

[quote comment="256904"]hey

[quote comment="256904"]hey ybf, i don't think 'costed' is an actual word! come on, now!![/quote] LOL!!!!
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[quote comment="256796"]as i

[quote comment="256796"]as i read some of these mixed emotions/comments i look is aw at some of the things that people wrote...not just on this board but on others also... you have some people who place blame on Julia-and i dont see how in a million years this could be her fault. like this man came up to her and was like bitch im a murder ya family...im pretty sure thats not what happened.. then u have people who says things like "we as black women" no dont speak for black women as a whole speak on ya own behalf.. i guarantee 99% of "black women" who have been in f""ked up relationships didnt have an intentions on it turning out the way it did..bad boy, thug, preacher, saint it dont matter what category he fall under at the end of the day NOBODY IS EXEMPT!! its sad that at a time like this, in this situation whether its a famous person or not people play the BLAME GAME...That girl didnt know that he was gonna do some dumb shit like that. and i dont think for a moment that ANYBODY in this situation had they woulda known it was gonna turn out like this WOULD HAVE STAYED...simple as that! I dont get when a person say we as black people or we as black women..cause truth of the matter is this coulda happened if you were white, hispanic, chinese etc... NO WE AS PEOPLE need to get our sh""t together..cause this is ridiculous...and very UN-CALLED FOR![/quote] Now this...I agree. It's not a color thing, it's a people thing. He didn't have to be a felon, he could have been a wall street banker..it's happened b4.... She didn't make the best choice as far as a man, but she doesn't deserve to be blamed for some sick a$$ people who killed her family.
Chica's picture

Law enforcement sources tell

Law enforcement sources tell TMZ why officials believe William Balfour violated his parole -- he had missed anger management counseling and substance abuse courses that were required as a condition of his release from prison. Balfour had served time for attempted murder and carjacking. The anger management lapse is ominous, given that he's a "person of interest" in the murders of Jennifer Hudson's mother, brother and nephew. As for the substance abuse courses, the Chicago Sun-Times quotes a witness as saying they saw a man resembling Balfour exiting the infamous white SUV "carrying what appeared to be a bottle of liquor." Several law enforcement sources tell us Balfour could be charged in the murders as early as today, but no timetable is definite. THIS STUPID MAN IS GOING DOWM......WHO IN THE HELL ELSE WOULD HAVE A MOTIVE...BUT HIS STUPID ASS...GOD DONT LIKE UGLY....HE'S GOING DOWN.... I BET HIS DUMB SELF THOUGHT HE WAS GOING TO GET AWAY WITH IT....SMH, PARKING THE CAR 5 MILES FOR WHERE HIS GIRLFRIEND LIVED AND HE COULD JUST WALK BACK HOME AND KICK IT, LIKE NOTHING HAPPEN. WRONG!!!
SMH's picture

From the beginning of hearing

From the beginning of hearing of this tragedy on Friday, I immediately felt like this had to do with drugs. I think William Balfour (Julia's husband) sold her car to pay off some drug money debt (Selling your wife's car seems like a desperate attempt to get a lot of money quickly). He probably had to pay it all by a certain deadline (which I didn't), or else the people after him would kill his family (which they did). Remember, the reports said that he knew where Julian was but he wasn't "cooperating" (to me, indicating he already knew what was about to go down). To me, all this just screams "drugs!" somewhere as a reason for all this. And of course, William Balfour is the MAIN person to point out because I think he has all the answers (he just may be a little scared if he snitches). Just my thoughts...
Patricia's picture

[quote comment="256354"]Am I

[quote comment="256354"]Am I the only one who thinks Julia is enjoying this attention? Somethin' ain't right..............[/quote] I'm not with that comment. I didn't see it as a problem for her to update her Myspace page...the more awareness she brought about her missing child, the better chances she was hoping he would be returned safely. Writing/blogging has been a way for people to help release the sorrow in their hearts. (it works for me) I couldn't even begin to imagine how she is feeling. I would probably be one breath away from the mental institution (or wors) if this happened to me.
Chica's picture

hey ybf, i don't think

hey ybf, i don't think 'costed' is an actual word! come on, now!!
T's picture

MAN....you guys have said

MAN....you guys have said some hurtful things on this blog in the last five days. Everybody grieve in their own way. If you never experience a loss such as this one. YOU WILL NEVER be able to comment on how she feels. If Julia choose to log onto her Myspace....just to get it out...then Julia is doing Julia... Did you ever think for ONE moment that she may read this website as well??? Hell nawl, you didn't think about it. Because if so, she would see and feel nothing but love pooring from this website...she would get nothing but Love..Hugs & kiss. Because we love Jennifer..we love Julia as well. And with this just as much. She is going through enough. Don't let her get trashed from her own people. I am way older than most of you dudes & chicks (see older) on this website, but Natash deliver "real talk" is why I read it. ************************************************************ Julie and Jennifer words will NEVER be able to express how I feel right now for you two. My heart goes out to you. I will never meet you ladies but, I am putting my arms around you both. God and each other is your strength. Believe that and know that. Much love to you both. (((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) (((((((((MWAH)))))))))))
Monica's picture

[quote

[quote comment="256758"][quote comment="256606"]Kc- Peace and blessings. I think the reason I am so mad about this and my girlfriends situation is because I was in that boat 8 years ago w my sons father. And you know where hes at? In jail doing 15 years. he did all the fd up stuff that happened to these girls, but my guradian angel saw it and rescued me. I was 700 miles from my family and he preyed on that. I had never been pregnant before, and our relationship was good until I got further along. He tried to blame it on stress (he pulled a gun on me in one incident) It ended up being his "friends" who told the police where he was and they came and kicked in my door, and carted him away. ive nbever looked back. That could have gotten a whole lot uglier as time went on. my point is this, guys like that mean no one no good. if they dont care about themselves, why would they care about you? All in the search for "good di**". Please. (julias words notmine) Mrs elba- peace and blessings sister. We as her friends have tried all that we can, but she doesnt want to see it or whatever, but a lot of her friends have left her bcause of him and the dissrespect she allows him to put on her friends. Me and him got into an arguement one time and thats all it took and i tongue lashed his ass so skanless, he wont f w me anymore. But until someone is seriously hurt, or he leaves her alone it will never end. Its already been 5 years.[/quote] I think everyone is upset and touched by this because whether some people care to admit (not you) we have all fell in love or been infactuated with the wrong man. Lord knows i have and i am thankful that it never ended this way. A woman i know was killed by her husband and prior to him killing her he has beat her up and shot at her before its sad and tragic. I think she should either make her page private or stop making comments because they are being taken the wrong way as if she wanted this to happen or she wants to famous off of this. I also don't feel this is a "Black issue" i think its a women issue women from all different backgrounds and walks of life have gotten involved with a bad man. We learn from our mistakes thats what makes women strong, all women. I just feel so bad she had to go through something like this to wake up. Poor girl i just feel so bad for her.[/quote] I agree with you: I don't believe MURDER and DOMESTIC VIOLENCE are exclusively "black issues," I believe DV (Domestic Violence) is definately a "woman's issue," even though men are affected by DV as well, just not in the same numbers as women. Needless to say, I totally agree with everything you said, about falling for the wrong guy, not getting out of the bad relationship until it's too late. If anything comes out of this tragedy, I hope it's greater awareness that when we know that someone we love is being abused, we definately step in and try to make a very concerted effort to help them get out of this dangerous situation, and also, that DV affects EVERYONE, not just the victim...Moms, brothers, sons, daughters, EVERYONE.
Thelma Harper's picture

[quote comment="256354"]Am I

[quote comment="256354"]Am I the only one who thinks Julia is enjoying this attention? Somethin' ain't right..............[/quote] No you are not the only one....I believe that aswell!!!! I am so sad that her son is gone...where is his father... we need to be praying and grieving for the boys father. He was on the news visibly upset. My third eye won't stay shut....something is not right. This was botch attempt to extort money out of the Dreamgirl...and her sister knows more then she is willing to let up. William Balfours girlfriend of course is going to go against his story....look at how big this story has become...she is not stupid... she will drop dime to get herself out of hot water...JHud needs closure ...this has to be solved. I hope they find all that were involved...ALL because this street thug, no job, no money, and no sense could not have done this alone. Where was the ransom note.., this was someone the family knew and that they knew well...
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